hi Z
just a note from across an ocean and some waters
i think i may be just a couple of steps ahead of you &
YOU DO NOT NEED A MEDICAL PROFESSONAL
I recently got myself a referral for SPDpossSTPD-diagnosis, only then happened upon AS, self-diagnosed, became aware of risk of mis- or non-diagnosis even in professional community (and there is then always also the authority-matter simply because they're the pro aren't they), did some checking, became very doubtful when the hospital of referral did offer 'integral diagnosis' but googling them & any kind of AS-term yielded nope
I was puzzling on theoretical matters dealing with brain-development, so had a technical question. My mother suggested I call this lady she knew from the local hockey club, as she was what in dutch is called an 'orthopedagoog' i.e. an orthopaedic pedagogue (professional dealing with eg learning problems).
Any educational institution should be able to connect you with one. Obviously, special education seem to come to mind.
These people deal with AS on a regular basis, from a practical point of view. Find one, you could just ask for advice about this friend of yours, find out whether the concept of late-diagnosis-AS means anything to this 'op' AND if so - find out whether they know whoto refer you to
If they're any bit of a professional - they should already know enough, decide you might not even be capable of making the appointment or simply ask for help - decide to actually make your appointment themselves
it is what is happening to me right now: that lady knew instantly, there was nothing to prove, i was just extraordinarily socially alert so didn't quite fit the 'typical' AS footage, definitely HF and chameleonic and that's it: i'm just waiting for her to call and tell me wen & where to meet this psychiatrist she works with in her practiceand whom she knows has seen it been there
and well, we'll just have to sit back and hopefully enjoy the ride, but i am bl.....g scared i think that pt in my stomach is trying to tell me
whatever you do: good luck
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