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first i'd like to say i've been poking around here for a bit and i'm impressed with the amazing support you all give each other. kudos to all of you. i've registered because i have a zillion questions that i think only those with aspergers can help me with. my oldest closest friend of 25 years may in fact have aspergers. he has not been diagnosed that i know of, but after a friend tipped me off that his quirks could in fact have a medical explanation in Aspergers i began to do some research. when i read the list of symptoms i swear to you, i cried. after all these years i finally understand so much that i've been baffled by.

i know he suffers from OCD and ADD as well. He's told me this himself, and i suspect that he might know there may be something else going on. (We'll get to that discussion eventually i'm sure)

After being in love for 25 years, we are finally dating. (phew) and of course now i understand why it was so difficult for us to get to this point. I have always adored him, he's the sweetest, kindest, strongest man i know, and i somehow always knew he just communicated differently so i adjusted the way i listen so i could 'hear' him. i never take anything seriously so he can yell if he needs to and i just smile and nod, make a silly joke, then he smiles too and we're good to go. (if he says something mean i point that out to him without becoming mad myself, i know he doesn't mean it to be hurtful) i do explain certain proper responses to him, but never in a condescending way, he doesn't deserve that. i have the highest respect for him. he's been the most loyal friend i ever had, even through my own very bad 9 year marriage to someone else.

We became friends when i was 15, he was 16 so maybe being children together made being together easier, not sure. there is so much more to this story of course, but those are the basics. anything i can learn about this would be great! thank you all for being here.

Welcome littlefrog!

Welcome! I recently joined so maybe I'm not the right one to welcome you, but anyway.

You seem so... understanding. A lot of times people around me have told me how wrong or weird I'm acting and how I'm supposed to act. Oh well, I guess they're just trying to help me in their own silly way.

Hi littlefrog welcome to the "our" Planet

But really its great that there are non-aspies willing and wanting to understand, I feel its vital we all learn from one another. Far to many of us worry about others not understanding, but for real change we all do have to include them.

I have Aspergers + associated learning disorders and my older son has non-verbal learning.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

thanks to all of you for the welcome. i suspect i've been on the right path as far as how to have a successful relationship with him instinctually (again probably because we were kids together and i also come from a family with a history of other neuro disorders) but what i've been reading from all of you has really helped fill in the blanks for me.


knowledge is power .. he's the only man i have ever been able to see myself with long term, so i'm in this all the way.

Welcome to WP!

I'm so glad to hear you are dating.

I'm neurotypical married for 13 years to my Aspie husband, mother of 3 sons - 2 diagnosed with Asperger's.

Helen

Nice to meet you, littlefrog.

To WrongPlanet!! !

Welcome!

That's a really cool story you and your boyfriend have, littlefrog. Thanks for sharing with us, it's always great to read stuff like that.


Welcome to WP, and I hope you feel free to ask away.

-Elizabeth

Welcome to WP!

thank you .. i'm learning a lot just reading around here. i read a lot of info on professional websites, they pretty much all say the same things. it's better to hear about life from your point of view, that's more accurate.

Welcome littlefrog,

it was indeed great to hear your story, to echo Ford_prefect_kid's comments. Hopefully you enjoy your time here. It is nice to hear an NT's voice every now and then. While my main concern is to get a bit of relief from NT life, I enjoy reading the Parent's forum to get a bit of an idea of how NT's think. So more than likely I (at least) will learn as much from you as you will ever learn from us.

Thanks for stopping by and have fun here are the WrongPlanet