Clinging to Negative Emotions

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How easy is it for you to cling to negative emotions? Is it hard for you to forgive others, or does it come naturally for you? Do you remain frustrated by your actions? Do you have chronically low self-esteem? Do you have problems trusting other people or become angry at them easily?

Negativite emotionality should be considered in two forms: self-directed and other-directed.

Self-directed negativity:

• Low self-esteem
• Depressed mood
• Hopelessness, pessimism
• Apathy, lack of motivation
• Self-loathing
• Always assumes fault lies within self
• Masochistic personality (being unable to experience pleasure of one's own account; only through others)
• Deference to others, compulsive kindness and courtesy
• Self-defeating behavior (actions with negative consequences resulting from evaluation of self-worthlessness)
• Overly strong conceptions of morality constantly push the self out of consideration
  

Other-directed negativity:

• Cynical attitude
• Easily angered by others, holds others in contempt
• Feels those around them are constantly failing to "meet the mark"
• Exploits others for personal gain
• Sadistic personality (enjoys seeing others suffer)
• Lacks moral principles of equality, kindness, generosity, and honesty
• Tries to make others feel worthless about themselves
• Underestimates need for other people, the interdependency that defines society
• Prefers to ignore own feelings and mock expressions of emotion in others
• Highly competitive and domineering
  

I fall strongly into the first category of self-directed negativity. The problem with having too much self-directed negativity is that it can reach a point where it can no longer be effectively contained, and then everything flips. The pain is displaced from the self onto undeserving (or not really deserving) people. The negative energy flows out, no longer controllable.

I fall under the first category myself. However, I don't blame my autism for this, I blame the events that happened in my life which made me this way.

I put 'towards others', but then realised that it was not really true. Most of the first ones apply to me, and three of the second ones do (lack of interdependency, easy to anger, cynical attitude).

When I am in my depressed mood I feel this way.But when I was manicly depressed from ages 8-14,I hated myself,I self-esteem wasn't really high(and in some ways it still is),I of course was REALLY depressed,I felt hopeless and useless,although I tried my best to be nice to others.(Today being nice to thoer people really isn't THAT much of a problem but I only take crap off people for so long).I felt like everything bad that happened to me was my fault and in a way I still do.Things are ALOT different in my mania mood though.

-SpaceCase

I really loathe this type of labeling.
Maybe that's because I am a defective human being.

I can't help but wonder if this is a typical neanthuman joke.
Correct me if I'm wrong.

I am really really negative all them time. Every night I have a bad night and am mean to others because I can't deal with myself. I wonder why god made my life like this and why others have great lives (the jocks). I say they have everything given to them. why can't my life be like that? why to I have to suffer? why can't they suffer with me?"

At first, would've voted both, but reading the descriptions caused me to vote "only towards self" not "toward others". So I guess my bad feeling has more material to feed on within myself, don't understand other people enough to feel or think about them much. Could say it's self-absorbed of me-but if I were a narcissist I'd have a high opinion of/like myself. Have barely an inkling of which aspects of myself are related to which dx's or what-can't discern cause & effect.

It is possible to be a narcissist and hate you’re self trust me I do I also hate other people when in a low mode in high mode I just hate every one elth

Self directed negativity

[*] Depressed mood
[*] Hopelessness, pessimism
[*] Apathy, lack of motivation
[*] Always assumes fault lies within self
[*] Self-defeating behavior (actions with negative consequences resulting from evaluation of self-worthlessness)
[*] Overly strong conceptions of morality constantly push the self out of consideration


Other-directed negativity
[*] Cynical attitude
[*] Easily angered by others, holds others in contempt
[*] Feels those around them are constantly failing to "meet the mark"
[*] Underestimates need for other people, the interdependency that defines society
[*] Prefers to ignore own feelings and mock expressions of emotion in others
[*] Highly competitive and domineering

There's mine... 6 in each. I guess I voted right.

I am a very positive person, but I do suffer from nervousness and low self-esteem on occasions. I am only negative to other people if they engage or encourage activities that put down less fortunate or less able people.
I have a "protest mentality" in which I only attack or critisize people who are in a position of power or are stronger than myself.

I have gotten into alot of trouble arguing and attacking the views of the authorities.

I can't help it though.

Its good to question authority, or their injustices would never be dealt with. Just because you are in the minority doesn't mean your view is wrong!! !

Of late, I tend to hold onto anger more of others. I rarely stay angry at myself. I seem to have more patience for me, hehe.

But yes, I get very frustrated by small things (or sometimes larger things). I no longer allow myself to watch the news because of it. I just keep getting angrier and angrier and more and more sour by hearing even US politics briefly mentioned. I just makes me red.

So I no longer watch the news.