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07 May 2008, 6:04 pm

I found out about Asperger's in January (shortly before I joined WP), and I was pretty sure I had it. After talking with you guys it became almost certain to me. At age 21, yesterday I was diagnosed with it by a psychiatrist - woo! :P

Now what? Haha



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07 May 2008, 6:10 pm

Welcome! 8)



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07 May 2008, 6:24 pm

why are you happy you have a disorder? woo! i have a broken leg! woo! im blind! do you think people who get aids go "ALL RIGHT IM GOING TO AIDS CHAT SITE!" no

But still, welcome! Most of us have warmer greetings!



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07 May 2008, 6:25 pm

domo arigato Mr. legato (i'm sorry i've had that song stuck in my head for the past hour) congratulations on the diagnosis.


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07 May 2008, 6:49 pm

Yeah? And? I wasn't diagnosed til I was just 13 (I think)! But before I was properly diagnosed I eavesdropped on my dad's phone call to my auntie and heard him mention my name and Autism in the same sentence!

And you think it's alright to be this way?
Well I don't think so pal...

But I do hope you enjoy your stay :D


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I also want to say... that people who think having Autism/Aspergers is a good thing?
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Because it just ain't right...

But there are advantages tho... like FREE BUS PASSES IN ENGLAND!! ! WOO HOO!! !


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oh and I didn't mean any wrong by the first part... except that some people on here may feel that it is... rather horrid... so... :evil:



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07 May 2008, 7:01 pm

Maybe he is happy about a formal diag because 'everything makes more sense' about his life up until now. (my guess..not sure) His concerns about himself were validated. I can understand why he is happy for the diag. I am almost positive that my husband is on the spectrum. I explained this to him, and for once in his life he understands why he feels the way he does, and why things that dont bother most people...bother him...etc, etc.

Im glad that he has a positive, happy outlook :) That is a a good thing.



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07 May 2008, 7:10 pm

oblekis wrote:
Maybe he is happy about a formal diag because 'everything makes more sense' about his life up until now. (my guess..not sure) His concerns about himself were validated. I can understand why he is happy for the diag. I am almost positive that my husband is on the spectrum. I explained this to him, and for once in his life he understands why he feels the way he does, and why things that dont bother most people...bother him...etc, etc.

Im glad that he has a positive, happy outlook :) That is a a good thing.


Ok... so... now I think I do understand that no that you mention it :D
coz... I was kinda busy typing a book up at the time and my head was spinning with other information...

but even with a formal diagnosis I still don't see why I should feel so happy about it...
just because people say "you should feel happy about being diagnosed," doesn't mean you have to do as they say...



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07 May 2008, 7:55 pm

Well, I can only speak for myself, but I had similar feelings of excitement when I was diagnosed.

See, I've always had this long list of quirks that makes me different from everyone else.
Over the years, these traits [like not being able to write correctly, talking to much (but only to people I'm comfortable around), sensitivity to certain fabrics, no "appropriate" friendships, etc]
have been making my life increasingly difficult. Not so difficult that I've regreted life or anything: just difficult in the sense that I was often steered away from the roads traveled by all my other peers.

Finally, my dad was like "Hey [Pundit23], I just heard about this thing called Asperger's, and well, I think you've got it. It explains [all of the aforementioned list]."
And my reaction was like, "Dad, it's seven in the morning on a sunday." But then of course, when we were all more awake, he explained that if all my impeding quirks were caused by Asperger's, there were psychiatrists out there who knew methods of compensating for the skills I lack.

And then after I got the confirmation diagnosis, I started reading up on it... and since then, I've been doing a lot of self discovery. The AS books out there are certainly erronious to some degrees (as AS is a broad spectrum sort of thing, all traits dont apply to everyone, and the field is just starting to be explored), but on the whole they helped me to understand myself alot.

So, when I'm asked "if there was a cure, would you take it" I'd be like hell no. I still think I became the individual I wanted to be, and I only need to compensate for the mundane little things that society and I don't quite see eye-to-eye in (Like timed tests). And sure I wish I had a lot more fulfilling friendships with wholesome people who don't use and abuse me -- but hey, perhaps if I was normal, I'd be getting involved with bad people right about now. It's all cool, and now that I know that I won't just outgrow my quirks, I can start taking them as seriously as psychiatrists do.

As for "why am I so happy"? Well, I think I'd be pretty freaking miserable if I didn't have AS. Because then I'd still have this list of quirks, causing a ruckus in my life, without any explanation or overall gameplan, all alone without a society or this rare feeling of actually belonging which I'm experiencing now. Quite frankly, if I was negative for AS, and I were given neither sympathy nor helping hand out of the hole I am in, I think that hole would have been my grave.

But now that we've started shedding light on the real culprit, I think I'll stay on this weird planet a little longer, and see how it all plays out. I'm no longer the only one, and I know that others have made things work. 8)



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07 May 2008, 8:40 pm

oblekis wrote:
Maybe he is happy about a formal diag because 'everything makes more sense' about his life up until now. (my guess..not sure) His concerns about himself were validated. I can understand why he is happy for the diag. I am almost positive that my husband is on the spectrum. I explained this to him, and for once in his life he understands why he feels the way he does, and why things that dont bother most people...bother him...etc, etc.

Im glad that he has a positive, happy outlook :) That is a a good thing.


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07 May 2008, 8:51 pm

Deadboy365 wrote:

Ok... so... now I think I do understand that no that you mention it :D
coz... I was kinda busy typing a book up at the time and my head was spinning with other information...

but even with a formal diagnosis I still don't see why I should feel so happy about it...
just because people say "you should feel happy about being diagnosed," doesn't mean you have to do as they say...


Everybody has their own right to feel the way that they do about their diagnosis...or about anything! Heaven knows I was a complete mess when my son was diagnosed at about 2 years old with autism. I was scared, confused, I definatly was NOT happy about it...then mad...then I went thru denial, anger...etc. About a year ago, I was finally at peace with it all, and I am able to talk to people about his autism and not get emotional :D . He is 5 and is still not verbal, but he is the most loving child I have ever known.

Everybody deals with it differently, and no one is wrong in the way that they feel. :) So if you are not happy about it, that is your right. There are things about myself that I am not happy about, and have no control over (I have a form of epilepsy. no issues now but had them as a teenager).



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07 May 2008, 9:32 pm

Deadboy365 wrote:
oblekis wrote:
Maybe he is happy about a formal diag because 'everything makes more sense' about his life up until now. (my guess..not sure) His concerns about himself were validated. I can understand why he is happy for the diag. I am almost positive that my husband is on the spectrum. I explained this to him, and for once in his life he understands why he feels the way he does, and why things that dont bother most people...bother him...etc, etc.

Im glad that he has a positive, happy outlook :) That is a a good thing.


Ok... so... now I think I do understand that no that you mention it :D
coz... I was kinda busy typing a book up at the time and my head was spinning with other information...

but even with a formal diagnosis I still don't see why I should feel so happy about it...
just because people say "you should feel happy about being diagnosed," doesn't mean you have to do as they say...


not everyone has the privilege of getting diagnosed at a young age, for most people they didn't find out about AS till very recently, and they find that this explains many things about the way they were treated(and the way they acted) in "normal" society.


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08 May 2008, 12:45 am

Deadboy365 wrote:
just because people say "you should feel happy about being diagnosed," doesn't mean you have to do as they say...


I happen to be one of the people that say you should feel happy about being diagnosed, I'm not happy because someone said I should be - that indeed would be very stupid. Personally I don't see why I would be unhappy about gaining information about myself and why I have the troubles I have. It's awful hard to deal with a problem without knowing what the actual problem is.

And yes, it brought me closure and I understand why I am the way I am, a very important thing to me. Understanding yourself and being true to yourself is key in life, in my humble opinion.

Personally I don't see AS as a disability (though it can feel like that some times...), but rather a different way of doing things. I think as public awareness grows, we'll become more accepted for who we are. Though until then, there's no reason to b***h and moan about it :D



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08 May 2008, 12:51 am

_Thinktank_ wrote:
why are you happy you have a disorder? woo! i have a broken leg! woo! im blind!


People with broken legs can still walk. People that are blind can still find their way around. An involuntary impairment of an important ability (walking, seeing, socializing) can cripple you in your life - especially if you dwell on your shortcomings. But if you're strong and try hard enough, there is always a way to feel and to be complete.

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do you think people who get aids go "ALL RIGHT IM GOING TO AIDS CHAT SITE!" no


Funnily enough, some do :P When someone gets bad news, it's always nice to be able to share their feelings with people in their shoes.



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08 May 2008, 10:08 am

Deadboy365 wrote:
But before I was properly diagnosed I eavesdropped on my dad's phone call to my auntie and heard him mention my name and Autism in the same sentence!


I did that, too!
My mother was talking to my aunty and she said..."The psychiatrist thinks that Brittany may be mildly Autistic".
I was pretending to be asleep on the couch...I can lay still for hours so it's pretty convincing.


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08 May 2008, 12:14 pm

Good for you. I can relate to how you feel because of how much better I feel about myself and my troubles after I came across what Asperger's was. I had no idea until two months ago.



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10 May 2008, 9:55 pm

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