Hey guys - newbie here, NT but fascinated :)

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Hey everyone!

I'm Tiffani, a college student majoring in linguistics and French. I've been really fascinated by autism spectrum syndromes lately, particularly Asperger's; I don't know why for sure. I'm definitely NT, but I share some of the same qualities, particularly getting really obsessed with certain interests and not knowing when to stop talking about them. And I seem to like a lot of aspies. I don't know, they seem less threatening to me. That said, I haven't met a whole lot in person, so I'll reserve some judgment there.

One of the factors I'm most acutely interested in is aspies' language variations. I read Look Me in the Eye (I'm sure a lot of you have, as well - great book!) and I just looooved the way the author used language in a unique, unapologetic way. It was almost poetic. I'm very interested in being a forensic linguist at some point in the future, and further understanding the way different autistic people speak can help me identify what kind of syndrome someone might have just from a sample of their writing or speech. That would be kick butt, to say the least.

Also, I have a crush on an aspie girl (who I know is lesbian), but I don't think she's noticed me. >_< So any help there would be appreciated!

In addition - if any of you would like a NT perspective on any issue at all, please feel free to write me! I'll be learning a lot from you guys so hopefully I can give something back!

Hope you all have a great day!

Welcome. I may have some questions for you later.

Hi Etoile. From an Aspie to an NT, it's nice to meet ya!

*waves!*

Ask away, my love. I am so bored tonight. My whole family's out of town!

Welcome to WP!

lol you got your work cut out for you if you plan on achieving all that.

Nice to meet you, Tiffani.

Lots of people demonstrate autistic behaviors without being autistic. I guess you're not autistic until it starts profoundly affecting you're life, like you're not OCD until your obsessions & compulsions start taking over your life, preventing you from enjoying it.

I don't think I understand women any better than any NT guy, so I won't try to advise you there. I can tell you that if it was an autistic guy you liked, he'd probably apreciate a nice, blunt, direct approach.

Welcome to the Wrong Planet.

Welcome.

I'd also recommend the direct approach. Of course, as I'm not really successful with the ladies myself, maybe you should take my advice with a little grain of salt...

Well unfortunately I found her on a dating site, so atm I'm waiting for her to show 'mutual interest'. I can't communicate with her until she does.

Sigh...I may have to accept she's just not into me. But trust me, guys...the pickings are slim on this site, haha!! ! So I feel like I should be sort of a catch. :-/ *whimpers*

welcome to wp. good luck with the girl, maybe give her the impression you might like her but dont be too subtle. and i may be wrong but maybe make the first move.

Oh que t'es aimable ! ! <3

No but see you don't understand...I don't know her in person, I've only seen her on this site, and the only way it will let you communicate is if she shows interest back. It was this weird process: first you show interest, then you compare relationship essentials, then you answer short answer questions, and then you can e-mail each other. Anyway apparently I've only been awaiting a response for 1 day but it seems like forrrreeeevvvverrrr. Haha, of my many virtues, patience is not one of them.

But as soon as she responds (please please please!) I will be all over you guys for advice. I'm a little bit of a hopeless romantic, you see. Also, I am apparently 12. Just for future reference, even if this girl doesn't work out, I have some general questions...

1. Do aspies have any tendencies as far as touching? I'm generally a pretty touchy-feely person. When I first meet someone new (a friend of a friend, for example), I'll shake their hand, but if I've ever talked to them before (even online) I'll hug them. It would feel really awkward for me to go up to someone and be like, "Hi," and just stand there staring at them not doing anything. At the same time I don't want to freak someone out by hugging them. How do you usually prefer? Do you like to be asked before being touched, do you not want to be touched at all, or does it not bother you?
2. I read somewhere that aspies have difficulty interpreting teasing. I'm a very playful person...and jokingly sarcastic about stuff. I worry that would get misinterpreted. Do I need to be careful about that?
3. In general, what range is there in the spectrum? Are there people that you just can't communicate at all with? Are there people that seem NT most of the time except for a few quirks? Or is it generally in the middle?

Thank you.

Ask me questions too! I'm bored.

There is no such thing as a typical aspie. We are each a culture of one. You will have to ask your aspie these questions.

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