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With this message I would like to say Hello to you all! My name is Simone, 36 years from The Netherlands.
Recently joined here. I am impressed by the many international members, including those from Europe!
I am single and living on my own. So far without any help, but that is about to change. Someone will come over to help me 1 hour a week to organise my kitchen/cooking facilities. I am looking forward to that, as I am tired of doing things on my own. This year is important to me, as I will lose my job (finally ) and will move to another district about 160 kilometres away from here. One can say that I am about to start a new life: new job, new home near my parents, new self-confidence. I have to gain 10 kilogrammes in order to get a nomal weight. I am 1.76 metres tall. So far I started weight gaining at 54.0 kilogrammes, In three months time my weight has increased to 59.8 kg now !
My life is quite empty and not empty. Lots of time for myself (I do not work as a result of a burn out, depression) but I do not always know how to handle this.
I like to get to know other Aspergers. I myself I was diagnosed early 2006.
If you have any questions, just send me a message, and I will answer as soon as possible.
I have no kids. Not married, never been. Virgo with ascendant Pisces.

Welcome! Tell me, do you have that famous dutch sense of humour? Many here dont understand humour, but i usually do.

Thank you Fuzzy for your warm welcome!
I think i might have that famous sense of Dutch Humour indeed!

hello! i'm also from europe, i'm in england

my life is very empty, too much time which i can't organise usefully, not enough help from other people... it gets very frustrating and it's making me depressed

A warm welcome to you too DivaD!

Hi!

Welcome to Wrongplanet!

I hope you enjoy posting here!

Welcome to WrongPlanet the greatest forum on the net. I hope you'll enjoy this site.

Thank you all for your kind words!

I hope to find new friends here on the Wrong Planet forum as I have made some ' friends' on the Dutch Autsider Autist Online Community as well.

In my life my parents are the people I have most contact with. I know this is not a healthy thing when you 36 years old. When I think that way I am comparing myself with others (' NT' people who seem to have a ' normal' life with a partner, kids and lots of friends.

As I know that ' normal' social contact costs too much energy, I can enjoy online friendship even more. Does that sounds familliar?

i know what you mean. i'm 31 and still having to live at home with my parents it's not good for me i know. but the one time i did try and live by myself i did not cope at all and was always stressed out and not eating and coming back to my parents all the time! but still i am always comparing myself to NTs, especially my brother with his job and his girlfriend and their baby, it just makes me feel like a failure

yes real-life social contact is very difficult and takes a lot of energy, although i do actually find it very rewarding on the rare occasion i have enough energy for it unfortunately i do find online contact still takes a lot of energy. writing to friends takes time and commitment, and it involves lots of words and communication (often a difficult thing for aspies, me especially), and means a lot of time at the computer, i find it hard to sit still and concentrate! so the different ways of communicating have different problems and different rewards. still i have made a lot more friends since i got the internet so it has proved to be a good thing, and worth the time and commitment in writing to people.

You're welcome!

This passing judgment issue is very common. We are blessed about having AS, but when we show it too much, it gets old.

DivaD, I can recognize the feeling you have being a failure when you compare yourself to your brother, his job, his girlfriend and their baby. In order to feel ourselves better, we must not forget that even if you feel like being a failure, this not means you are a failure yourself!!
We are just as much worth as anyone else! I know how easy this is said. The years between 20-40's as most people start a family might be the darkest years for those who will not be able to get themselves into the 'standard' way of life.



You are absolutely right in telling how rewarding real life social contact can be despite the lack of energy it costs you! In daily life the moments of good real life contact give me a boost of self confidence what not very many other things can bring me . Indeed the different ways of communicating each have their own problems and different rewards. In my humble opinion The Internet and the WWW were presents of God in order to bring people together all over the world just like the WrongPlanet Forum. I can be so happy thinking about the many many things I read on this forums which bring me so much recognision!!

Asperger's + Depression... quite a trying combination. Been there, done that, diagnosed with both.

If it helps any, I believe I'm on the way to recovering from depression (and mine was pretty bad--I was hospitalized twice, and officially it's "Major, Recurrent"); so it's logical that you may be able to recover as well. Asperger's is life-long; depression is not...

Try not to envy the neurotypicals... they have problems associated with the way their brains are wired, just like Aspies have problems. Loneliness can be alleviated if you take your social interaction in small doses, so that it doesn't overwhelm you (this is what I do).

Sorry if those sound like pat answers; that's the information I know, and it may or may not be useful to you. The application is always harder than the theory, anyhow.

Thanks for your reply Calista! In order to get some how of a social life (back after depression) it is indeed important to move on step by step towards other people.