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Hi Everyone ,
I've just done a diagnostic and am so relieved that I finally have a name for some of the things I experience on a daily basis that make me feel so removed from other people's realities. I don't think there's anything wrong with who I am and don't want to be "fixed" as I'm having a well-adapted life and am intergrated into my family. I do however understand now why making (and keeping ) friends is difficult. But it takes all kind of people to make up life on Planet Earth, not just the "normal" types. Hallo again!

Hello LadyJuliette,

welcome home!

Merle

coming to WrongPlanet for me was like that scene in "Close Encounters" where everyone started walking out of the mother ship. My gawd it was good to get here!

stick around, there will be more around shortly.

Merle

hullo back!
I know what you mean, it's nice to know why making friends was so hard, but I don't want fixed either. I'd forgotten why I liked wrong planet until today; I love having so many kindred spirits around.

and merle, you are reverse stalking me. O.o

Welcome to Wrong Planet, LadyJuliette!

Welcome.

Welcome to WP!

"Hello," LadyJuliette. It’s a pleasure to welcome you to Wrong Planet.

LadyJuliette, Greetings and welcome..

It has been a tiring day for me, the questions and answer sessions in my head got a bit much and I needed to just "switch off" to relax, which was not possibble until I slept. I've been so overwhelmed by the welcomes. It's truly amazing to come home like this.

I'm concerned that now that I know I'll start patterning my behaviour on AS just to keep convincing myself it's really true. Does it sound weird? Like I WANT to have AS . Like I've always wanted a label or a box, because people couldn't understand me and now I can go: "Here, this is a tag for you to hang around my neck to make it easier on you". That surprises me as I can't stand being put in boxes and always assert my right to be free and to keep reinventing myself. What a contradiction! Does this put me in a box? I think that's up to me. All I can say today is that knowing is such a relief and I'm happy that it has come at this stage of my life (36yo) where I feel so ok with who I am and not searching for the truth about me anymore.

My husband says he is v happy to know. He says it explains some of my behaviour and makes it easier for him to be there for me. Not that I think I'm difficult to be around I'm just interesting and a touch eccentric. How does knowledge empower me in my relationship with my 15month old son? I'm concerned about attachment disorders etc. He's a happy, sociable child who loves to be with other people and smiles at them a lot. People comment on him always being such a happy and warm baby and how much they enjoy to engage with him. So maybe no problem.

lol, one of the things I noticed when I was diagnosed is I saw everything in a new light. being an aspie isn't an excuse, or a reason to do things, it's just a way of recognizing that you have strengths in certain areas and weaknesses in others.
and you might go on doing things as you always have, and a lightbulb flashes - oh hey, this is a typical aspie behavior. it doesn't mean you're trying harder to be aspie, it just means you know why now.
you say you like to always be reinventing yourself, congratulations, addiction to habits and routines is one of the things I have trouble with.

and I love the word eccentric (random, yes, I know)

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome, I myself have only joined very recently but it is sure nice to have found so many people that think along the same lines.

I noted with interest that we seem to be the same age and both from RSA.

Yes we're both from RSA. Lovely place to live in, but full of prejudice of all kinds and any "difference" like AS is misunderstood, as I'm sure it is in other parts of the world. In South Africa we have a lovely, liberal constittution but human rights abuses and prejudice galore, so telling people you've got AS is risky. I've decided to only tell my parents and husband I have AS for fear of becoming even more isolated and misunderstood. I'm also in a very responsible position at work and don't want to deal with people's fear of the unknown and preconceived notions about Autism. Can you relate to any of this? I'm sure many of us deal with prejudice worldwide. That why wrongplanet is such a lovely place to hang out and just open up.

To WrongPlanet!! !

Yes, exactly like that. We've all seen a lot of movies, haven't we? To illustrate the point of not discussing AS with anyone, I've spoken to my sister about this (on the insistence of my mom) and she's normally so open-minded and allowing of my life and process. But boy did she come back with a whammer. She wants me to see a doctor and get diagnosed, I quote: "properly" and get "medicated". OMG!! Medicated. Wow, that was so unexpected. Guess I'm so AS, I didn't see that one coming. And that's my sister. So best we keep our cards real close to our chests from here on in. Pop one pill and call me in the morning, you'll be right as rain...