IsabellaLinton wrote:
That's difficult sometimes and one of the main problems with text-only conversations. I'm sure we've all had that problem where we are misinterpreted, and I hope we have all apologised for those times. In other instances it's reasonable to infer or suspect a negative intent if there are direct / indirect slights against others, negative or accusatory language, repetitive patterns of ill-will, a history of that person not listening to advice about how to change their writing style, or a history of that person not ignoring those who expressed upset. Of course that should be clarified as well, and if it wasn't the intention there should also be an apology. We know all this and it's not rocket science, so I realise I didn't really answer your question. I thought there was a specific etymology you wanted me to deconstruct.
I rely a lot on recognising patterns of behaviour and sometimes communication both here and IRL - it has been extremely useful to me, particularly at work and to avoid abusive relationships. Past behaviour predicts future behaviour and all that - isolated incidents don't count.