Appeal for peace & calm.

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Thank you, smudge. After being written off as a human being just because I am not a fan of Fnord, it’s great to see not everyone has jumped on that bandwagon.

That seems to be it right there. Someone decided that their suspicion of the alleged motive behind it was sufficient evidence to close it and issue to me a warning for posting it. Never mind asking me what the real motive was. Never mind clicking on the link to read about the author of the poem. Never mind any sense of "due process".

No, someone self-righteously assumed that my "past record" was sufficient "evidence" to "prove" hostile intent where none exists.

So let's round Fnord up with the usual suspects, skip the trial, and haul him off to Guantanamo for a little waterboarding, eh?

Did you ever say that to Ferris? To Booyakasha? To anyone else who lies about being a victim of my alleged "motives"?

Didn't the guy speaking for Ferris say that reports against you were piling up regarding that thread (and others)? And that Ferris has screenshots of them to prove it?

I've been on the forum just about 2 years now. Fnord has a manner that bothers a lot of people, but he is not a troll or trying to manipulate people. He has some good advice. He should not be banned because some or even "many" people have complained.

We are all autistic. That means we have impaired social interactions. It also means we have impaired ability to figure out what someone else means. It is presumptuous for anyone besides Fnord to determine what Fnord means or is thinking.

We all write posts based on what we know, what has worked or not worked in our experience. Many posters write from a position of "I know the right answer." Sometimes when I look back at my own posts, I see I could have been more understanding of different points of view. There are other posters who routinely demean others' points of view. Yet they seem to be tolerated.

Ferris is a good person, regardless of what happened. As are the rest of the mods. We need to thank them for all they have done and continue to do. No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes.

Thank you so much to SP, XFG, walrus, enviro, booey, B19, ferris. I can't tell you how much I appreciate all the hard work that goes into the tough calls.

So many interesting things happen outside of PPR, I should spend more time outside of the PPR basement.

Baseless suspicion, false accusations, conspiracies, bloodless coup attempts, rumor, innuendo …

Who needs PP&R, anyway?

Heh. It has its charms.

A friendly reminder to people that the OP was asking for some peace and calm.


This was not to the last few posts. I can't even get anything written before it is third or more in line

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I suppose so …

I prefer a good paintball game, myself.

If that includes sniping away at Fnord for no valid reason, then that's exactly what's been delivered.

Just a mob of people who believe everything he does is ill willed and get offended by his every statement, no matter how innocent?

Aren't you expecting the impossible?
What I've found possible with Fnord (cheers!) is clarification: every time I found his statement offensive, I asked if he meant <my offensive interpretation>. We were always able to sort it out peacefully.
By the way, I volunteer to mediate.

I don't know what that means. I was hoping to stop the sniping.

I don't like the mob mentality here either, mags.

This is a problem for me too - IMO popularity shouldn't play a role in such things.

I'm uncomfortable with the way this whole thing is made into being just about Fnord (sorry can't drink right now). He's not the only one walking the line and he should be moderated in the same way anyone else is. There have also been too many instances where people openly attack seemingly innocent bystanders during such exchanges - the rest of us have no idea if there was any provocation, the history between people here or if anything is done about... basically anything. You have to contact other members if a regular gets banned and rely on rumours and gossip - I hate doing that. Due to the lack of transparency in (some) of the moderation, all some of us can see is the same people breaking or skirting the rules with impunity.

What confuses me the most about the current moderation is that it has been openly stated that each mod does their own thing without consulting or getting input from others and there seems to be little if any cohesion/consistency in how each of them interprets and enforces the rules. Some seemingly show fairly consistent bias when dealing with certain subjects or members. People have been banned without even being told why - and this is an autism forum This has created strife both amongst themselves and with the membership.

Of course, Alex's absence plays a bit part, some mods don't have the time or interest anymore and so on, but this is the situation the rest of us have to deal with and Ferris was the first one in a long time to try to change it.

When I joined, this was handled in a very different fashion and the main reason I would normally contact Ferris when I had a problem here was that he would at least be straight-forward with me, while still respecting other people's privacy. All I can do now if I still come here will be to mostly ignore rule-breaking like half of the membership already does.

Personally I do not dislike you. But I do know that you rub people the wrong way and plain piss them off at times. So yes there seems to be a valid reason for the feedback you get.

I don't know Fnord personally, and I'm not psychic, so I can't tell what his "true intentions" are.

He's blunt, abrasive, and advocates for people to pull themselves up by their bootstraps. You can say that he could try having more empathy, but, on the same note, you could suggest that some people try being less sensitive.

I'm not comfortable banning anyone because some people don't like their personality or opinions. I'm even less comfortable banning people on the basis of some sort of popularity vote.