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03 Mar 2011, 7:47 pm

Khan wrote:

Since when do false accusations equal bullying?

They do not. The issue here is that he *uses* them for that purpose.

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03 Mar 2011, 7:48 pm

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I think it would be more appropriate to discuss this privately. . .

I have tried.

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03 Mar 2011, 7:50 pm

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Great. We're going to lose another mod.

Not unless he retires on his own, and there is no need for him to retire at all. Rather, his bullying (at least of me) simply needs to stop.

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03 Mar 2011, 7:52 pm

iamnotaparakeet wrote:

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No flame wars allowed.

Are you posting that to me or to the one making all the false accusations?

Generally I suppose, neither to you nor anyone. I was trying to be funny actually at the time, but looking back I suppose there would be no indication of that.

No problem. All is well.

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03 Mar 2011, 7:54 pm

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Listen up, leejosepho. ... it may take time for MidLifeAspie to adjust to the power of being a moderator. It took me a little time to finally settle into the role and become anywhere near as objective as I needed to be for it.

Maybe you can go coach him a bit. I say he is in desperate need of some coaching.

But on the last page you seemed to agree that he was doing a good job:

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Volodja wrote:

I think midlifeaspie is doing a very good job as mod so far ...

... and I am not saying he is not.

I think you're mistaking things for some kind of campaign against you, when actually none exists. Maybe it's because of the de-modding (even subconsciously) or maybe it's from earlier, I dunno. But I really don't see him bullying you mate

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03 Mar 2011, 7:55 pm

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Banned? Yeah it is against the rules calling out other members ...

I am not aware of that, and a former mod once told me that was all somebody else was doing to me as if that was really not all that big of a deal.

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03 Mar 2011, 8:02 pm

Volodja wrote:

I think you're mistaking things for some kind of campaign against you, when actually none exists.

I agree, please calm down Lee. No one's making you into a pariah. I don't really understand what's happening at all, except that midlife said some odd things, and now you're all sparked. I'd be upset if you got banned when all we have to do is rewind and sort something out.

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03 Mar 2011, 8:06 pm

Volodja wrote:

leejosepho wrote:

Quatermass wrote:

Maybe you can go coach him a bit. I say he is in desperate need of some coaching.

But on the last page you seemed to agree that he was doing a good job:

leejosepho wrote:

Volodja wrote:

I think midlifeaspie is doing a very good job as mod so far ...

... and I am not saying he is not.

Quatermass' mention of objectivity and my agreeing with you earlier are not the same thing.

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I think you're mistaking things for some kind of campaign against you, when actually none exists.

My Aspie ability to mistake things is well-known, and I am repeatedly hearing condescending, patronizing BS such as the most recent and absofuckinglutely ridiculous idea that I somehow hold my being retired against MidlifeAspie!

s**t. In my long-ago old days, I had guys like him for breakfast!

Volodja wrote:

... I really don't see him bullying you mate

Consciously or otherwise, he is very subtly-yet-very-crudely turning things around in ways he already knows will possibly piss me off ... or else he has some kind of extremely serious memory issues since he continues to say things I have already made quite clear as being completely untrue ...

... and would you like to know how all of this is likely to turn out?!

I will be found "guilty as perceived" of harassment -- someone has already PMed that charge to me -- for calling the bully out.

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03 Mar 2011, 8:11 pm

Moog wrote:

Volodja wrote:

I think you're mistaking things for some kind of campaign against you, when actually none exists.

I agree, please calm down Lee. No one's making you into a pariah.

I was already being viewed as a pariah (even if that term was not used) my very first day behind the screen.

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I'd be upset if you got banned when all we have to do is rewind and sort something out.

I am more than quite willing to do that, and I would gladly even let MidlifeAspie take the lead.

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03 Mar 2011, 8:35 pm

Can everyone involved just sit down and shut up!! You're making things worse for yourselves.
You're not doing your reputations any favours at the moment.

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03 Mar 2011, 8:45 pm

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Can everyone involved just sit down and shut up!! You're making things worse for yourselves.
You're not doing your reputations any favours at the moment.

I'm not sure any of those involved actually have reputations, good or bad. But I agree. Public bickering is only going to cause a metric f***-ton of strife.

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03 Mar 2011, 8:46 pm

blue_bean wrote:

Can everyone involved just sit down and shut up!! You're making things worse for yourselves.
You're not doing your reputations any favours at the moment.

I am sitting, I am the only one talking other than yourself, and my alleged "reputation" is not my concern.

I am a no-nonsense guy who plays straight-up and evenhandedly, and I will not put up with any more of MidlifeAspie's bullying.

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03 Mar 2011, 8:55 pm

leejosepho wrote:

blue_bean wrote:

Can everyone involved just sit down and shut up!! You're making things worse for yourselves.
You're not doing your reputations any favours at the moment.

False accusations, I can understand. But bullying is a bit of an exaggeration.

Come on, man. You're better than that.

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03 Mar 2011, 9:11 pm

MCalavera wrote:

False accusations, I can understand. But bullying is a bit of an exaggeration.

Come on, man. You're better than that.

If I am wrong about my saying he is bullying me, then someone only needs to help me see why he has even repeated false accusations I had already addressed and he has made no effort whatsoever to in any way correct anything he had said while knowing damned well he is just repeating his own tripe ...

... and for what?

Show me where I am wrong about him thinking his buttons give him some kind of right or authority to do that and I will go fall all over myself trying to get to his shoes so I can polish them brightly.

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03 Mar 2011, 9:51 pm

Everyone does false accusations, how is that bullying? I don't like being falsely accused either. Who does? If he apologized, would you stop this madness?

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03 Mar 2011, 10:11 pm

leejosepho wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

False accusations, I can understand. But bullying is a bit of an exaggeration.

Come on, man. You're better than that.

Most of us are a bit clueless on what those false accusations are, so how can anyone address your request?

I'm frustrated. I hate what I'm seeing here but I don't have hours to spend sorting out how you came to perceive what you perceive, so I can't go back point by point and explain what went wrong. But look at what your friends are saying here, Lee. They don't see what you see.

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