Should we add another forum specifically for aspie parents?

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I can understand your want for a seperate forum, being an Aspie parent is like walking down the same road, except that wheras the NT one was ashpalt, the AS one is a dirt one.

The only thing I'm worried about is the look of segregation (we're supposed to accept NTs, and yet seperate forums? Misinformed people would be easily misguided). One idea is to have a sub forum. Under the title "Parent's Forum" It would have "NT Parents Forum" and "Spectrunites Forum" (I made up the word Spectrunites for AS, Auties, and anyone else on the Spectrum).

Aylissa and Apatura just convinced me. Very valid points. I think I see the issue more clearly. It's a yes vote from me.

Am I really understanding this?

Are you a parent? If not, then my guess is, no. It's hard to understand what being a parent is like until you actually are one. I imagine it's like NT's trying to imagine what life is like with an ASD - they can't and never will.

Oh, so all I can do is base my points of view on what you actually think. It must give me some insight.

No, I don't think you should base your point of view on what I think. I am not the only one with an opinion here.

I applaud your caring in being involved in this issue at all. You have always been one of the most fair and equitable people here on WP. But my statement about being a parent is true - you can't understand it until you've been through it. I wish you well in this area, if that is your desire.

I don't understand why jason is so offended by the idea . It is true you can't understand what being a parent is like until you are responsible for a helpless child (whether biologically yours or not) 24/7. This is just one of those axioms of life.

Last edited by Apatura on 07 Mar 2007, 10:14 am, edited 1 time in total.

It's hard to understand, the concpt is easy to understand the doing part isn't.

My very young daughter isn't sleeping, wife doesn't care, I get up and because I tend to pace alot, i dance and I dance with her for hours in my arms. IT's 3 or 4 in morning only to have to get up take care of the others, get to work or in that case baby sitter and off to scholl, get home get the kids, make super and wash rinse repeat, With millon other things happening, that have to be delt with. Over whelming? Hell normal people get over whelmed, now put it in your prosctive and you might just catch a little glimpse. you have to live it to know it.

Actually, my name is Jason and I was not referring to anyone in particular. I meant to refer to the people who responded to this thread in general. I know Alex objects to this idea, but I don't think he sees the main point. I must let him do what he wants to do because he can make the decision. I am not stopping him from doing what he wants to do because he is his own self.

I'm with Aylissa on this. I've dipped into the parents forum a couple of times, but as an Aspie with NT kids I sort of felt out of place. I believe it is very different being NT with AS kids to being AS with NT kids.

I voted for it too. My NT (step)kids are grown up now, but I can see the value of a separate forum. It's somewhere I would have found very useful when they were younger.

Now, I'm feeling a little bit more unsure!

What are you all trying to say about this?

I have to say that I am so glad I started this thread, because I thought en un isla and I were the only aspie parents here! But now I know there is postpaleo and Cernunnos and Starr! I'm so happy just knowing you guys are there.

So Jason says Alex is opposed to this idea, despite the fact that the majority voted for the idea, which was 17 people, also both en una isla and I are long-time members, and we have stated why there is a need. That is sad. Alex is young, and probably expects to have kids one day, and he will not have the benefit of all the wisdom those of us who have been there before him can give. Oh well.

And as to one member's suggestion that we just 'start a thread'. Here's why. If I knew we had a members only forum, for aspie parents, I would be able to start a thread such as "If you had it to do over again, would you?", knowing that I would get honest responses from other aspie parents. But NT parents would jump all over me so fast I'd be gone from this forum.

Or how about "How do you handle it when your 3 year-old has a temper tantrum in the grocery store?"
This is a typical NT question.
But you are AS, and you HATE the grocery store, with all the shoppers and the crowded aisles and the bright lights and spending the money and counting everything and the prices and the smells and the sounds etc., so you're already overloaded and now your own flesh and blood is issuing forth blood-curdling screams in the dairy aisle because they're out of her favorite flavor of Gogurt - and you have a meltdown as well. SO: How do you as an aspie parent handle a simultaneous meltdown, in public????

Of course I could go on and on but I won't because the ad above the textbox that is flashing is about to give me a seizure.
Next?

Now, I feel neutral!

Do you mean I changed your mind from being in support of the idea to now being less in support of the idea?

Well, I have no opinion either way.

So, I just want you to be sure I will definitely post here more starting tomorrow, I promise.