Making it Better: The future of WP

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To take the idea even further: I wonder if everyone is incapable of understanding something...

ME: Bats aren't birds.

HE: But they's gots wings, eats bugs, and fly!  They's birds, man!  They's birds!!

ME:

According to Robin DiAngelo, if you are a white person in America, you are a racist, pure and simple; and without a lifetime of conscious effort you always will be, and you can't help it because of "White Privilege".

I wonder when we would call it gaslighting when someone isn't ever getting something. We wouldn't call someone with an intellectual impairment a gaslighter because they won't know every skill we have and they have limited cognitive understanding. We wouldn't call an autistic person a gaslighter because they are not getting social cues even if they are trying but to an NT or to someone who is milder on the spectrum it can look that way. Same as how they process things and people who talk to me online will notice how easily I get lost in topics and conversations and I can be talking about one thing but not realize they are talking about something else even though we are technically on the same subject but just imagine if they assumed I was gas lighting?


I have learned to pretend to get things so I don't piss people off. Dishonest yes, but if I am my true self, I will piss someone off and then get called deliberately obtuse. I just go try and seek the information elsewhere and ask someone else to see if they can explain it in away my mind works and way I process things so I understand or wait till I have more experience and I might get it. So sometimes it's better to lie and pretend to avoid coming off as toxic.

When people say all white people are racist, I am sure they mean racial color blindness.

glad you worked it out

narcissist parents can do irreparable damage

When people say that all white people are racist, I assume they mean that all white people are racist, which is a racist statement in itself.

thanks for the warning

And even then, you're still a racist, you're just a somewhat aware racist.





...Please tell me this is not a conversation that actually took place.

I wish I could.  The man was looking for bats' nests ... to steal their eggs ... to hatch them and train the fledgling bats to hunt ...

Well I just learned bats are a mammal.

Some people out there think whales are fish. I knew since second grade they are mammals. Textbooks always read "They are not fish, they are mammals."

But hey these people are going to use the "not everything you read is true" logic.

It scares me sometimes to think about how some people are so anti-intellectual that they refuse to trust anything that a reasonably educated person would know.

For instance, did you know that the pineapple is related to neither the pine nor the apple?  It is actually a cluster of berries grown into one solid, pulpy mass.

Yet, I know people in Michigan who sincerely believe that pine-cones are "pine-apples" that have dried on the pine-tree.  Trying to prove otherwise only got me in trouble for being a "smart-ass" who liked to make people look "stoopid".

Yes, it is scary.

My Dad would go up to talk to anyone. He was tallented like that. At a local beach he saw an elderly lady looking for something, so he asked "What are you looking for?"
"Cockles" she replied.
My dad said they are under the sand, and he walked to an area that had the tell tale signs, and with his walking stick he dug one up.
She said "That's not a cockle. That's a shell".
My Dad explained to her there was a cockle inside it and if you boiled them in a saucepan, when the creature dies, it will open its shell and you can eat it.
She was having none of that and the usual thing was said "I have lived in London for "X" years (Could not recall the number of years her age was but she was past retirement age)" (You know the story of how people don't like being wrong and try to make themselves seem knowledgeable and important).
My Dad said something like "You have lived in this country for all those years and expected to see ready cooked cockles sitting on the sand?"

It makes one wonder how someone can live for so long and not know basic things. At least she found the right beach, we shall give her that!

quite

I think I understand why my mom lacks friends and always had troubles fitting in. She once told me she sometimes thinks she has something wrong with her so I told her she can always go to a therapist to get it figured out.

But then she told me she has always called people out on their racism and prejudice. Lot of people do not like this so this is reason number 1 possibly.

Two, I read on Reddit that gossip is part of human social interaction and it's how people relate. My mom is someone who hates gossip and wants no part in it, she would call people out on it and tell them 'did you talk to that person yet?" "no" Then she would tell them "then you have no right to bad talk them behind their back." So another reason here.

So these are probably why. Not that she is a bad person and it's good to be an advocate for the minority and stand up for other people but sadly not everyone likes it. I think this is another reason why people stay silent. They don't want to be made out to be the bad guy.

My mom did the same to her mother too. Her mom would use the word "colored" and my mom started telling her as a teen, "Mom, that is racist to say that, don't call them colored." Honestly that was the word my grandma heard growing up and that was how they were referred as.

i would guess this