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I simply don't read them.

I am semi-dyslexic.
Too much work.

I was once told to “stay away from the [Greenwich] Village” under penalty of being smashed in the head by a chain.

it seeps into everything. esp for kids.
even tv shows can encourage it without kids or parents realizing
like that Kimmy Gibler in Full House being essentially treated like trash by grown men.

bullies also create new bullies like a virus.

discovered this spoiler thing so it will save a lot of people from having to see rambles.

Later, there was a flood of:
"Damn! He's back!"

I always notice people are black and white about bullying. Bullied victims and those who advocate against it think anyone is an accomplice when they do nothing about it when they see someone being bullied.

But what it is is if people to step in and defend the victim, they end up making enemies and getting the bullies and their friends pissed. My brother in 1st grade would defend someone who was being bullied and he would go to the duty ladies and the bullies would get in trouble. His own friends would get mad at him because he broke the hidden rule of friendship (friends don't tell and get each other into trouble) so they would give him the silent treatment and refuse to play with him and then they would get over it a few days later and be his friend again. This always hurt my brother and it's no wonder kids stay silent and do nothing when they see a kid being bullied. Adults do the same thing too, won't speak up or stand up for someone when they see them be mistreated because they don't want to get on their bad side and have consequences.

I can understand the victim's perspective, they see everyone being against them because no one ever defends them.


It takes a lot of people to stand up for someone and stand up against bullies than one person. Then the bully becomes helpless when everyone is siding against them because if they are mad at all of them, then everyone is in it together being punished by this bully and their bullying tactics become less powerful.

horrifying ..

You can be quite aggressive.
That tends to be a more male trait.

There are plenty of passive men in the world, and plenty of aggressive women.

I assume you mean verbally.

Hopefully you don't mean personal attacks. I am not aware when I do them unless I call someone a butthead.

yes actually even in famous people it is interesting to notice.
especially if the image is the opposite of what the person is.

Like that man, Alice something.. the one with the eyeliner...

but maybe the appearance (other people's impression) is from what u were in the past -- like an outer uniform - -and the actuality
is your more developed,
mature thoughtful self after a lot of life experiences/relection.

but what if the person feels deteriorated instead of improved--or became jaded,

their previously nice outer self probably melts away as it takes too much effort to maintain so you just see their actual feelings straight away.

Alice Cooper, who sang “School’s Out For Summer.”

You raise such good points for discussion
I am just a skyscraper poster though
Editing them down takes so much work
Yet that still leaves them as high rise posts

I've been on both sides of bullying, although I didn't realize how often I had been a perpetrator until after I was done school. It's often complicated because in a lot of cases the kids who are bullies are also bullied in another context and it often amounts to the popular kids letting the outcasts pick who's going to be the 'sanctioned scapegoat' from among themselves, and often with a degree of official sanction because teachers and administrators tend to be sensitive to how 'the crowd' feels about certain kids, so they'll often turn a blind eye to certain types of kids being bullied.

Your school sounds like it sucks balls

I certainly wasn’t in “fashion” at my school.

The teachers sort of thought that I “deserved” to be bullied—because I had no social instinct whatsoever. And most teachers didn’t believe I had redeeming qualities. It was sort of a Social-Darwinist sort of mindset.

My attitude.....was to just take the bullying “like a man.” I never ratted out anybody. I went home to my books and TV and Hawaiian Punch—and gained lots of weight.

It did. I'm not sure if elementary school or high school was worse, both were uniquely horrible. My high school had no problem letting me withdraw from classes but overlooked that I was 'identified' since elementary school, meaning they should have given me an IEP and access to the resource class from day one, but instead I only got the bare minimum of help in my 6th year of high school.

I only started to figure out how to self-advocate on important stuff after I finally snapped on the new little old gremlin VP who replaced Mrs P (who was the mom of a classmate from elementary school and very kind to me). Basically I told Mrs. Hayward if the school wasn't going to take my complaints of harassment and physical assaults seriously I was going to address them hands on and if she called me to her office over it I'd treat her as one of the bullies because she was already one of them for picking on me for dressing weird and singling me out for issues I didn't have (like smoking on property when I'd never smoked tobacco in my life). I pointed out the only disciplinary issues I had ever had were poor attendance and fighting, both due to bullying the school allowed to continue; I told her I was leaving and that she didn't want to ever see me in her office again. She grabbed me by the shirt a day or two later and I didn't even slow down or acknowledge it. A 90lb person can't stop a 200lb person. She retired at the end of that year.