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08 Aug 2020, 8:44 pm
08 Aug 2020, 8:46 pm
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08 Aug 2020, 8:54 pm
I kept walking off to class and walked away. At this point in my life I'm grateful because I meant what I had said and was 100% prepared to follow through. I'm pretty sure my heartrate jumped about 30 bpm and that I twitched. That whole tunnel vision and time slowing down effect. I was terrified of having to explain over the phone to my parents yet another incident had occurred given that she was old enough to be retired by several years.
But if I got called down I didn't hear about it because I skipped after art class.
08 Aug 2020, 9:25 pm
^ I told my headteacher to f**k off. 
I remember when he threatened me he would tell my mother about something I'd done and I said to him, "It's alright, I'll tell her."
08 Aug 2020, 9:40 pm
At least as far as I can tell-
Wpuld be part and parcel towards the solution.
The usual methodology is to generalise all of the individuality out of any account of social interactions, especially considering the paranoia many of us have developed as a safety feature due to not having fitted in and being held socially accountable for which ~ meaning that individual references get instinctively / habitually associated with ourselves or others besides those who you are actually referring to ~ who might be us in other people's reckoning. Not to dissimilar really to as if Agatha Christie’s character Miss Marple stating to room full of people that there has been bullying most sly ~ and someone present is responsible! With some people feeling guilty or others trying to work out who is guilty or else the guilty individual trying to make someone else appear guilty, what with the nature of ‘who-done-it’ crime-thrillers being as they are.
When the ‘Id’ (the protective beast or demon within) takes over defensively one has to learn to reign it in and not to post in anger, so to state that is pure hypocrisy is several shades to far as our best intentions can of course as the saying goes pave the road to hell, but as long as we learn from our mistakes as being retakes rather than punishing ourselves we tend less to make the same mistakes to the same extent again, until we make them no longer at all potentially.
Exchange the unconscious I for the conscious I and benighted wisdom for enlightened wisdom ~ what with an eye for eye and tooth for a tooth making everyone myopic or blind and more prone to starving. Or in other words if one person is behaving badly don’t take the risk of it just being yourself (actually or just in the eyes of others), or else don’t make it two people behaving badly as it may as such even turn into a crowd or even a mob.
The very one you suggested other than getting construed as rude such as exemplified with funeralxempire regarding your brother where you recommended restraint ~ and rather than being sly and playing the victim or such like; learn to be more accordant to your values and those of the Wrong Planet membership requirements also. I mean don’t pander ~ negotiate diplomatically in an open and fair way involving your morality in balance with everyone’s ethical reality, so that your mind set and bodily setting are in tune here without having to be dismissive about or submissive to anybody.
one can forgive a presumption that we all share a hive mind and exact style of communicating to boot. So it is, evidently.
Consider looking beyond that narrative as theory of mind like any theory can be developed, as it is more often the communication impairments involving ‘all-or-nothing’ / ‘black-and-white’ thinking that is the greater problem ~ especially when people imagine one line or perspective of reasoning excludes or disproves another, when in fact they can confirm or prove the validity of the other.
If thats what you think is an effective way towards achieving an improved state of things hereJust as it was imagined I was angry in quasi-moderating funeralxempire’s post, I do not enjoy having to repeat the same information when you are not enjoying it, that gives me no pleasure whatsoever.
I never for a moment imagined that your wish to be supportive and improve things here was not sincere and honest ~ never did I doubt that and never would I support anybody stating that they doubted that either, hence me stating that much to you.
Besides ~ without differences of opinion new combinations of interaction would never come about as their would be no reason to communicate if we all had the same opinion, I mean think about it ~ everything differs in some way or another for very particular reasons.
In nature individuality is not a crime but of absolute and infinite design.
The theory of mind comment was about you
My comment was about everybody with the Aspergenic thing.
Fin
I knew very little about bullying until I was eleven as my Grandfather was someone nobody argued with and who won all fights, so when we moved away from my Grandparents area, things changed dramatically and harshly.
As a total pacifist I always wanted bullying to be stopped without involving violence. No matter though how much help I asked for I was always told to hurt the bullies more harshly than they were hurting me. So I put up with it for the first year and had a mental broke down. Then I put up with it the second, third, fourth and finally the fifth year and started having psychopathic breaks with sociopathic episodes ~ when all the bullying stopped because my body was hurting each of the bullies just as much as they had hurt me ~ all in one go. I had no control over IT for four years after as it just went for violent people until I learnt martial arts because IT knew marshal arts, and the first rule was never to strike in anger.
Hence my suggestion to learn as such yourself.
Everyone to me is family but friendships take years so no problems there at all, things can only get better possibly. Neutral is the facilitator for negative and positive.
Interesting that you should write about neutrality because on being moderated neither you nor I were judged as doing anything wrong at all ~ it mattered not one jot either way so I was wasting both your effort and mine. You have along with everyone else my complete and utter unreserved apologies for using a higher standard of quasi-moderation than is deemed of any relevance here. Sorry.
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08 Aug 2020, 9:54 pm
I remember when he threatened me he would tell my mother about something I'd done and I said to him, "It's alright, I'll tell her."
True, but that's not quite the same as warning them that if you're ever behind closed doors with them again that you're going to paint the walls red with their person. After that there were a couple incidents of me rubbing it in that I was untouchable, telling a friend that he didn't have to go with her and to just go to class she was going to overlook him smoking on property, mocking her while she was giving people s**t (I wore army boots and I'd clap the heels together loudly and do a Nazi salute behind her and then immediately assume a casual stance), threatening backhands or barking THAFUCKYAGONNADO?!, etc. I was big on publicly humiliating people who had bullied me at that age and didn't care if they were authority figures, authority comes from demonstrating dominance and I had done so, so I had the authority as far as I was concerned.
08 Aug 2020, 10:25 pm
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08 Aug 2020, 10:58 pm
08 Aug 2020, 11:32 pm
My school principal had a rule for respect but somehow that didn't apply to kids like me because she thought I had to toughen up. 
Then when I was fighting back, they decided to say I have a behavior and wanted to put me in a class with kids with aggression issues.
My school would also ignore my IEP and my parents always had to fight it. I have read comments online by posters who say they are teachers and they claim how parents will just get their kids diagnosed with anything for an IEP just because they are lazy and there was one teacher who was the exception. He had this student in his English class who was on the IEP for dyslexia, he ignored the IEP and made him do the actual school work like read and stuff and the kid finally did it when the teacher made him and was firm and consistent. Over the years, the kid was just lazy and never was made to do any actual school work and he was given a label because he wasn't doing any school work. I am sure my school thought I was one of those kids because I looked normal and I wasn't acting too different because I didn't look like a special needs child. I looked normal and didn't seem to be any different than other kids. They might have thought I just needed tougher treatment and I would be normal. I guess that explains their treatment on me as a child and all I did was felt singled out, discriminated, and I saw the double standards. You cannot enforce anything on me but not enforce it on everyone else or else I see discrimination. So my school had a problem with me because I did not accept injustice and double standards.
Years later I find out things are always enforced on special ed kids so they tend to be more polite than normal kids. This might also explain it for me as well and I did not accept it and because I didn't accept it, I had a "behavior problem." Their system did not work with me and even my therapist told them this was not a League Girl problem, this was a school system problem.
Lot of schools will try and get away with it if the parents do not know their rights and don't know how to advocate for their child. Schools will even try and deny an IEP for a child saying they don't need one. They tried to do that for me when I was 8 when my mom forced them to test me to prove to her I belonged in a self contained class. It was shown I didn't belong in there and I could read and I knew how to add and subtract and I knew my alphabet and because of all these things, I didn't need an IEP they said. But my parents fought it and I was still able to keep it.
I have heard the opposite now that any kid can get on the IEP and many of them fall under "other health impairment" because more kids are getting diagnosed and some medical professionals believe these kids are actually normal and parents are just lazy. IMO, I say humans are evolving so there are more and more kids with different learning styles and the education system needs to change and there will be less special needs kids.
Kids are being given less recess now so they are more restless now and have troubles focusing so the ADHD diagnoses has increased. Kids are expected to sit for long periods of time and listen for long periods of time and they are not being given enough down time. When I see articles about this, it makes me think "no wonder the ADHD diagnoses has increased."
And schools can give out IEPs and put them under categories so they can say a kid has ADHD or something but it wouldn't be a true diagnoses. A kid does not need a medical diagnoses to have an IEP. The school will do it and Oregon gives schools more funding if they have an IEP student, especially with ASD. I speak from experience as a parent.
I am sure things would have been different for me as a kid if schools were given more fundings for every student they have on the IEP.
I think schools will try and cut corners to save money if they are not given any extra fundings for an IEP student so it is up for the parents to figure out what their rights are and how to advocate for their child.
09 Aug 2020, 12:06 am
09 Aug 2020, 3:59 am
It doesn't change the fact that League_Girl has a sting in her tail, at times.
She asked,
I spoke the Truth as I saw it.
You seriously haven't seen it yourself?
Oh, my lordy!
09 Aug 2020, 4:11 am
Depth of thought involves making written matter understandable to most who read it.
I simply don't read them.
I am semi-dyslexic.
Too much work.
You raise such good points for discussion
I am just a skyscraper poster though
Editing them down takes so much work
Yet that still leaves them as high rise posts
Oh, lolly gosh, you sweet talker, you.
Like I said, my semi-dyslexia makes it exhausting to read large posts.
So I generally skip 'em.
But the quality of what you have to say is excellent.
I do probably have a male way of communicating since my gender has been questioned online at other places.
I never saw male and female language, text is just text so I would have no way of understanding how does a woman talk and how does a man talk.
You can be quite aggressive.
That tends to be a more male trait.
I assume you mean verbally.
Hopefully you don't mean personal attacks. I am not aware when I do them unless I call someone a butthead.
09 Aug 2020, 7:04 am
In your position I'm pretty sure I would of got arrested as I would of done some really stupid stuff in retaliation
09 Aug 2020, 8:12 am
09 Aug 2020, 8:18 am
What is it with all these long posts?
And mostly off topic?
Is there any real need?
Can some people go off and chat about off-topic related stuff or create a new thread?
It would certainly help this thread to be more on track and find solutions to making wp better.
09 Aug 2020, 8:24 am
