TheMachine1
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25 Nov 2006, 4:10 pm
bizarre wrote:
TheMachine1 wrote:
KBABZ wrote:
Okay, okay, here's the situation for the self-diagnosed 'fake' Aspies. They may be self-diagnosed, but at least they know that they're similar, very similar, and it is always nice to talk to others who you can relate to. Another thing to think about is just how gosh-darn hard it is for some users to actually get someone who's both qualified AND smart enough to give them a proper diagnosis. They could be Aspie and yet never have the chance to prove it.
Yeah the way I look at it DX is not that important. The common thread is social cognition problems leading to poor/delayed learing of social skills. One we all
may have started with different levels of impairment but a few facts are clear
as we get older we get less impaired (learn to adapt to the NT world). Which
means older people here tend to be less impaired than younger people. Also its clear
that the level of impairment tends to worst in males than females. So that means
we have a true spectrum here. I'm seeing a high percent of the conflict coming from
the imbalance of impairment in the people here. In another thread a 14 yo guy wrote
a simple statement about a break up and a 30 year or so old aspie man and women
who both had mates seem to lable him as a nazi-war criminal. And then even the 14
yo old girl involved got mad.Again impairment in females is typically less but we can only guess in this case. But onething I do not need to guess is about is the 14 yo
had a hard time finding anywords to explain the situation and likely could not
communicate with her . She thought he was a real ba$tard but It just might be an extreme imbalance in social skills of the to. She was cute and will find a mate when
shes olders but of all the people involved in the thread the 14 yo boy has the bleakest
future. Yet he likely is feeling very unhappy with WP. Where will he go?
Machine1 why are you trying to blame the female aspies for this? You say females are not as impaired and don't have any problems with communication and socialization. You say that female aspies have it so easy. How do you know this? When i was a teenager i was extremely withdrawn and isolated and was practically a mute. Maybe their are female aspie members here no one even knows about because they are unable to post. And they are unable to defend themselves against your accusations. I can sympathize with all aspies not just the females. You seem to not be able to empathize with anyone who is not a male like yourself. According to you any aspie male who has a problem on this board - lets blame it on the female aspies.
I guess if you read this thread you know how not knowing a simply fact can cause alot unneeded conflict.
No I'm not blaming aspies females for anything any where. Yeah
my words did not reflected what I ment. I'm not blaming that girl one bit. I was merely
guessing from their posts and what I read here that there was a big difference in the
two over all social skills. And that alone was the cause of the break up so fast. Yeah I
do tend to empathize more with aspie males the more I've been on WP. I'm sure
some percent of that thought on my part is wrong. That comes from my thoughts
that males do tend be lowwer function then the females here. The most complex
social skill is hooking up with a mate. I've never had a girlfriend myself. The
females here seemed to be married, bf/gf, between realtionship, aseuxal , and a small number single and looking. Im shocked every time I see another new female memeber is not single and looking. I'm about 99% certain I remeber your not single
and looking
The depressed , suicidual, loner, aspie males here are a dime a dozen (yeah me to). 
25 Nov 2006, 6:56 pm
25 Nov 2006, 7:10 pm
Hhhhmmmm, i should really read an entire thread before posting. 
Darn, that complicates things.
25 Nov 2006, 8:14 pm
TheMachine1 wrote:
bizarre wrote:
TheMachine1 wrote:
KBABZ wrote:
Okay, okay, here's the situation for the self-diagnosed 'fake' Aspies. They may be self-diagnosed, but at least they know that they're similar, very similar, and it is always nice to talk to others who you can relate to. Another thing to think about is just how gosh-darn hard it is for some users to actually get someone who's both qualified AND smart enough to give them a proper diagnosis. They could be Aspie and yet never have the chance to prove it.
Yeah the way I look at it DX is not that important. The common thread is social cognition problems leading to poor/delayed learing of social skills. One we all
may have started with different levels of impairment but a few facts are clear
as we get older we get less impaired (learn to adapt to the NT world). Which
means older people here tend to be less impaired than younger people. Also its clear
that the level of impairment tends to worst in males than females. So that means
we have a true spectrum here. I'm seeing a high percent of the conflict coming from
the imbalance of impairment in the people here. In another thread a 14 yo guy wrote
a simple statement about a break up and a 30 year or so old aspie man and women
who both had mates seem to lable him as a nazi-war criminal. And then even the 14
yo old girl involved got mad.Again impairment in females is typically less but we can only guess in this case. But onething I do not need to guess is about is the 14 yo
had a hard time finding anywords to explain the situation and likely could not
communicate with her . She thought he was a real ba$tard but It just might be an extreme imbalance in social skills of the to. She was cute and will find a mate when
shes olders but of all the people involved in the thread the 14 yo boy has the bleakest
future. Yet he likely is feeling very unhappy with WP. Where will he go?
Machine1 why are you trying to blame the female aspies for this? You say females are not as impaired and don't have any problems with communication and socialization. You say that female aspies have it so easy. How do you know this? When i was a teenager i was extremely withdrawn and isolated and was practically a mute. Maybe their are female aspie members here no one even knows about because they are unable to post. And they are unable to defend themselves against your accusations. I can sympathize with all aspies not just the females. You seem to not be able to empathize with anyone who is not a male like yourself. According to you any aspie male who has a problem on this board - lets blame it on the female aspies.
I guess if you read this thread you know how not knowing a simply fact can cause alot unneeded conflict.
No I'm not blaming aspies females for anything any where. Yeahmy words did not reflected what I ment. I'm not blaming that girl one bit. I was merely
guessing from their posts and what I read here that there was a big difference in the
two over all social skills. And that alone was the cause of the break up so fast. Yeah I
do tend to empathize more with aspie males the more I've been on WP. I'm sure
some percent of that thought on my part is wrong. That comes from my thoughts
that males do tend be lowwer function then the females here. The most complex
social skill is hooking up with a mate. I've never had a girlfriend myself. The
females here seemed to be married, bf/gf, between realtionship, aseuxal , and a small number single and looking. Im shocked every time I see another new female memeber is not single and looking. I'm about 99% certain I remeber your not single
and looking
The depressed , suicidual, loner, aspie males here are a dime a dozen (yeah me to). I didn't date till in my twenties and the longest it lasted was a few weeks. It wasn't till i was in my thirties that i had a relationship that lasted. It took a long time for me to develop socially enough to maintain a relationship. Its not as easy being an female with aspergers as you try to make it out to be. I was depressed and tried to end my life a couple times but i don't talk about it on here because someone will complain that i am whining or whinging(sp?) whatever that means.
25 Nov 2006, 8:25 pm
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25 Nov 2006, 8:36 pm
25 Nov 2006, 11:25 pm
MrMark wrote:
Alex does seem less and less interested in the management of this site, so I don't think anything more will come of it beyond you getting your shorts in a knot. ....
MrMark
I loose it every now and then, but you ?
I can't speak for Alex, but it is possible he doesn't think the site needs active management. Its possible he sees the opportunity to vent as a good thing.
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26 Nov 2006, 12:41 am
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26 Nov 2006, 1:15 am
BazzaMcKenzie wrote:
MrMark wrote:
Alex does seem less and less interested in the management of this site, so I don't think anything more will come of it beyond you getting your shorts in a knot. ....
MrMark
I loose it every now and then, but you ?
I can't speak for Alex, but it is possible he doesn't think the site needs active management. Its possible he sees the opportunity to vent as a good thing.
Sorry folks I free ball it to avoid getting a knot in my shorts. Anyway I used that same
expression with CanyonWind are few post up show creativity folks when you post.
26 Nov 2006, 1:16 am
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