Or cut n paste to office or even an unsent email kept in an email folder
I have a collection of quotes such as this:
One thing to remember is that the vast majority of NTs have had no solid reason to doubt themselves existentially (or indeed when they do society provides a ready-made escape), whereas individuals on the spectrum, or with other 'disorders' or indeed those who suffer from circumstance (like injury, addiction, assult etc etc) are more likely to have a crisis of the ego - and be all the better for it (in the end).
The main cause of insulting, rude, bullying and otherwise insensitive behaviour, is due to that individual being lost in their own abstract reality they've created for themselves in their heads (IMO). In their head it makes sense, and they actually believe that the nasty behaviour will a serve a purpose and is proportional - at least in that moment they do. The vast majority of people are lost, completely or in part, in such non-realities.
I think it is fine to whinge and moan about NTs generally, but then it is illogical to assume the generalisations apply to any one NT individual. As it is illogical to do so it isn't really about NTs vs Aspies, its just nonsense, its really just a common process of (illogical) defence-mechanisms kicking in just happens to be by aspies on this occasion. I would suggest not to ever take it personally, because you know that it isn't true (whatever it was). But then, this isn't just good advice re this situation, its good advice whenever someone is being 'difficult' with you over something you either aren't or haven't done. All of my pain from interacting with NTs in the past stemmed from my own desire to show I wasn't what I had been accused of being, and once I found about aspergers I no longer felt the need to prove my right to have aspie tendencies, and so such pain didn't arise because I could just let it go. But, I noticed that similar issues still occured but they had nothing to do with my aspieness, and thats when I realised that actually, the pain never had anything to do with my aspieness, merely my own desire to change the mind of someone else.
There are many old adages that apply, my favourite being "Never argue with a fool or a drunk, as those who are watching cannot tell who is the fool". Although I would prefer it to be being a fool, rather than a fool, lest the judgement be more permanent than is appropriate.
Anyway I'm waffling.
CSBurks - I don't think its right to say things like NTs should be sterilised - primarily because it is irrational, although I imagine an NT will experience an emotional response as well. But my criticism of the reasoning is;
Richard Dawkins - "in terms of evolution intelligence is overrated." Okay, he was talking about biological evolution but still...
I would much rather live today than 1000 years ago when I'd probably already have died of disease or starvation or worse, so we're (as in mankind) doing something right
I also doubt the assumption that NTs have been running the world - in diplomatic circles it has been suggested that there are lots of aspies - they have a particular advantage in that their "empathy" doesn't keep kicking in with inappropriate conclusions about the words and actions of diplomats from vastly different cultures.
13 Oct 2012, 3:08 am
