magz wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
And on Reddit, when I did a comeback when I got insulted by telling someone "you are an idiot if you think you have to insult people to disagree" because they called me an idiot, they seemed shocked and surprised and played the victim and were like "but but but what you said was stupid" as if they thought they were justified. A spade is a spade you know.
It's wise to avoid general "you" in conflict situations.
"You are an idiot if you think <something>" can be legitimately read as "you are an idiot because you think <something>" and, thus, a valid personal attack.
"It's idiotic to think <something>" does not introduce such ambiguity.
In that sense, when I told someone "you're an idiot if you think you have to insult people to disagree," I did literally mean the person I was responding to because they had called me an idiot. So I did a comeback and that person and some other people did not like it.
Some people can dish it out but they cannot dish it back in.
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