Did anyone ever approach the loner (you)?

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People did that a lot in high school. Unsurprisingly, none of them were the people that became my friends. I remember even sitting with people I wouldn't have chosen to otherwise in tenth grade so I wouldn't look alone (of course, this was a very small high school, so it failed in that nothing new happened. Also, this was in the days before Facebook, so I've no idea what happened after I moved away from that school)

In college, people are masters of minding their own business. This is impressive enough that eating lunch alone isn't as much of a problem as it was in high school.

I had a group of seniors approach the loner table one time. I guess they didn't feel like sitting anywhere else. One time they even tried to claim the table, and I just looked at them kinda weird and then sat down and minded my own business.

I remember sitting in lunch alone and there was this kid who was in my gym class and always sitting away from people in gym but he came up to me and we talked for a minute or two about stupid stuff then he quickly wrote something on sheet of paper and handed it me to very nervously. I looked at what he wrote, he pretty much said he was gay and he liked me then he took the paper back quickly and put it in his pocket. I wrote on a napkin that I was not gay but liked him. He then stormed out of the cafeteria. When I saw him in gym later on in the day he told me he would make sure I would experience hell on earth if I ever told anyone. He later tormented me more then the rest of evryone else. After graduation he joined the marine core and is married now. I wonder a lot about this guy.

It's happened to me plenty of times. That's where most of my friends come from, actually. I'll be sitting, minding my own business and someone will be interested by what I'm reading/writing/playing or watching on laptop etc. My quirkiness makes them even more interested and it usually ends with friendship.

Whenever anyone approached me out of pity I just didn't want to know. I would walk away from them. It was only when people were genuinely interested in talking to me that I stayed. I preferred to be left alone rather than have the popular girls approach me because I was alone. The only reason they approached loners was so it would look good on them.

Yeah, when I started my current school a year ago, two people in my class came up to me to start talking to me because I stood alone.
But it could be because I was the only native English speaker and we were going to start IB together

I'm usually the one approaching others who are alone. There's one girl in my class who usually sits alone because everyone else thinks she's annoying (Which she is a little) so I usually ask her to come with me and my friends. My friends don't mind, so everyone's happy

yeah this happens sometimes but most of the time its not in a good way. i seem to attract people who are completely different to me in every way. for instance a lot of so called 'popular' boys tried to talk to me, some who are regarded as violent or fight starters, but they werent talking to me in a threatening way, almost friendly. its either that or dumba** kids who want to try and rob me or pick a fight, and the ones who do try it usualy do so and fail on more than 3 different occasions. they would always say something like "oi gimme a pound/your phone brav" or try and pick a fight with me. this one kid sat next to me on the bus and said "lemme see that ipod" which eventualy turned into "gimme dat ipod or i'll hook you on ya jaw" which he repeated about 30 times throughout the remainder of the bus journey whilst i was glaring him in the face. after i got up he did nothing at all, his threats carried nothing.

that said, people do approach me but in the wrong way. i seem to attract scrub with nothing better to do than to try get a pound coin off of the next guy they see on the bus. although i do seem to get a few people who are generaly not scumbag human beings and wanna do something other than fail to extort things off me so its all good.

so glad i finished school for now, im going to my school's six form in september which has pretty high grade boundaries compared to most so even if the scrub at my school thought of something other than "this school is s***! i cant wait to move to a better college/six form!"
they most likely wouldnt be able to get in seeing as most of them dont/wont have many qualifications above c grades, and if so not many at all, so they wont be getting in

Rarely. Best example was in 9th grade I was sitting by the gym messing around on my laptop during lunch. Some girl comes up and says this is her last day at the school so she wanted to talk to all the hot guys before she left lol. Didn't go so well after that, I was too christian and she was too artsy fartsy vegan stoner.

its actually how i met my best and possibly only friend. lantz.
He reached out for me, just as I reached out to him.

it ended up working really well, because he just happens to understand me...in an odd way

People do this all the time. They ask if I want to sit with them and I usually say no. It's worse when they either hit on me, because I'm not with anyone else, or just sit down next to me and decide to "strike up a conversation". People seem to think eating or sitting and reading alone consitutes a need for then to aleviate that lack of social contact with their own presence.

In high school, I would avoid people in the cafeteria and sit alone. I hate eating with other people. I don't and likely will never understand the need to socialize while consuming food...

Yes. One person did once, and it was the most epic thing ever.
I was sitting in a tree and she climbed up and said hi. I was staying at a school where you live and stay on for a year so we were all new and such. Sadly when school ended, so did our friendship. I cried my eyes out when the last day of school came because I knew we'd be slipping apart, she moved a good 3-4hr trainride to the north afterwards and I had no clue how to keep the contact , she rarely ever used the internet and I didn't always know when it was alright to send her textmessages and such.
One of the best friendships i've ever had, I still have and wear the necklace she gave me

In my other school years I have been much of a loner, the only friendships I had were if there were other loners in the class.. Kind of seems less dangerous to approach someone thats sitting alone.

No, barely anyone talked to me. When they did, they would maybe ask me a question, then I would answer and the conversation would end. They would look awkward for a second and then leave.

I suck.