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Don't feel a bad about being 22 and still in college! I'm 22 and still in college. I won't gradute until I'm 24 and at is just for my BA! Plus I started when I was 18. However, I do hope things improve for you and you get to go to college you want.

Tim, I too am still treated like a child by my parents. They will treat me very differently if they get me alone (more controlling and demeaning), vs. how they treat me when there are other adults present (more respectful). My parents also told me what I could or couldn't major in, they discouraged me from doing anything that would have made me independent.

However, I think you have a lot more volition and strength than you give yourself credit for. You can still apply for loans and finish college. You have the intelligence to finish your degree, which is more than what many people have.

Why exactly would your parents find out that you applied for loans? If you are no longer their dependent, they will not be involved in the loan process.

About females and employment status, I would have been nervous to marry anyone who could not have a job, mainly because I myself have never been able to hold down a job. So unless we were willing to be vagrants, one of us had to be employable. Also because my parents are so abusive, I knew I couldn't remain living with them.

I think you will be okay. I have faith in you!

My parents stopped me from getting my license till I was 22/23. A friend of mine taught me secretly, without their knowledge.

I was from a state where most kids got it at 16. My sister did.

Maybe, when you go back to school, you'll meet someone nice there.

Tim_Tex, you need to get away from your parents. They are stunting your personal growth and derailing your life. You don't need your parents to support you at all. Here's all you have to do:

1. Get a part-time job. UPS is always advertising part-time jobs here for college students. They pay $11+/hr plus health care benefits.
2. Find a place to live. Use craigslist or any of the roommate matching services and find a cheap place to live. $200-300/month.
3. Get as much student aid as you possibly can to pay tuition and any other expenses. After you graduate you can consolidate your loans and you will have low monthly payments. Plus repaying your loans is a tax write-off, so you will get some or all of the money back through tax refunds.
4. Profit!

BTW, you could also come here to KU.

http://www.news.ku.edu/2006/november/13/geologist.shtml

^^And if you do get to a new place, make sure it has an internet connection so you can keep on welcoming the new members