Girl who I shall not name, part II

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I spoke with my father and came up with a way of retaliating.

I could build on your idea slightly, Emoal6. What I thought of doing was when this girl says something to victimise me, I could say "I'm only saying my point of view. It's an Asperger's thing."

Or, I could say to her, "Why do you always need to lash out on me? After all, everybody's different. You seem to make fun of me when I say something that you wouldn't. What's your problem?"

I wouldn't pay any attention to a girl like that. You're in a science class, so people are SUPPOSED to be answering questions scientifically, not bragging about reading Cosmopolitan. If that had been any of my science classes, the teacher would have probably told her in no uncertain terms to shut her mouth and stop interrupting the discussion (that's back before I was in college, now all my technical classes only have people in them who WANT to discuss science).

All teachers I have known really like students to answer (and ask) questions, as long as they're on topic ("why are you always the center of attention?" doesn't count). As long as you're not trying to win her favor for some reason, I don't see why you should worry about some girl who resents the fact that you actually are able to discuss the course material in a manner appropriate to the circumstances.

As for those of you who think the girl likes him--that seems very hard to believe. All the girls who have seemed to be interested in me went out of their way to compliment my academic ability, not ridicule it!

Im sorry, i cant agree with either of those. You have to put her in her place. You can't make a snide remark. You have to say, you're really cool, you make fun of autistic people. Way to go there cool person, you're special.

Its gotta be mean and edgy, it cant be all weak and running awayish. You have to point her out for her flaws, just as she does for you.

And then if that doesnt work, you need to get your parents talking to the school and to that teacher about this and how it is affecting you. You need to feel safe and comfortable at school, not under extreme criticism and duress. Its never gonna be perfect but you deserve an education you dont have to fight for.

Listen, there have been many of us in these types of situations. Sometimes they got worse, sometimes they got better. The only reason they changed in thier directions was the effort to fix the problem.

I dont know about the UK but in the US, Education is provided by the government up until college. Because of that, EVERY student has the right to an appropriate environment. There are lawsuits for this kind of thing, when school doesnt want to accommadate a student that needs extra help and protection. I know you dont want to sound or feel like a victim, but this is how it starts. One girl for a while, then one class, then half the school to everyone all day.

Do something about this now before it escalates too far...

I don't think she's completely to blame here. You did several things that would have annoyed me (although being AS, I wouldn't have responded - I'd have just moved to the other side of the room).
1. You slammed something down on the desk.
2. You told her to shut up.

I'm also guessing that when you put your hand up (several times in one class?) that you shot your arm straight up in the air and got an excited look on your face. Average NT's consider this nerdy behavior. I of course appreciate that you really really want to answer the question because you know the answer, however the correct way to behave in a classroom so as not to be vilified by the NT's is to:
1. Look around and see if anybody else is raising their hand first. Then, if not, slowly raise your hand, trying to look like you don't care if you get called on or not.
2. DO NOT tell people to shut up. Period. Unless you're joking.
3. If you slam something down, people will not like it. Try to not slam things.

BTW I'm in school too and am having problems. And you may not like my response, but I'm just trying to make your life in the classroom easier in the future.

Fortunately, today and yesterday, that girl left me alone. I understand that saying things that are logical do annoy people, so I generally try not to overdo it.

I don't know why I slam things either. I think it's just some sort of routine thing, I think that it is orderly to put something down harshy as it does not move about or change angle. I sort of put it down like a sped-up crane.

And by the way about my hand being up, I was sort of 'showing off'. I put my hand up slowly to show people that I wrote the question that the teacher addressed, not to answer a question.