was this counselor out of line or right?

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18 Mar 2008, 7:43 am

she does not get paid to lose her cool and yell at people.


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20 Mar 2008, 9:49 pm

kid020 wrote:
At my college there is this center I go to to get tutoring and help. The woman who tutors me is very nice and helpfult to me however sometimes she gets overly irritated with me and I feel she does this because I come across as meek as a lamb, so she knows she can get away with certain beahviors. Like one time I literally was doing everything I was supossed to do and she got in my face and yelled at me, and said, "Do you care about youur work at all?" and she yeelled at me in my face for at least a minute and a half. That was awhile ago. Then recently, she was being very nice to me and helping me with something practically doing more than she needed to and I even felt guilty, that she was helping me so much. Then all of the sudden she said, in my face, "If you screw this up I'm never helping you again! Got it!" I was very angry because I've never screwed anything up. What does everyone think?
She sounds like she has bipolar or something. I would tell somebody like your parents or somebody else you trust what the exact situation was first (you may have misinterpred the situation, and a second opinion can't hurt), then if they agree with you, tell the principal or somebody else in charge! You shouldn't be yelled at if you're doing what she says!



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06 Apr 2008, 11:55 pm

She is out of line. Sounds like a one person 'good cop' 'bad cop' routine. There's nothing I hate more. Its very abusive and manipulative actually. She is taking advantage of your nice personality. The meek (and the geek) shall inherit the earth.
Tell her if she threatens you and your peace of mind or uses you to unload her own issues once more you will report her. Remember if its a college tutoring center she is using this job to get a reference or credits of some sort. You are also doing her a great favor and she's lucky she's not stuck tutoring someone like herself.



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22 Apr 2008, 4:34 pm

i understand your situation and if she's as bad as you say but you dont want her to get in trouble because you like her maybe you should try talking to her at the end of the lesson or somthing?


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