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I didn't go to my prom in 12th grade.

But my friend and I did go to the after prom at an arcade.

I didn't go to my high school prom, or any other school dance for that matter. What would be the point? It was bad enough they tormented me 5 days a week in school when I had no choice but to be there, why whould I voluntarily to somewhere they will be so they can torment me some more?

Besides, unless I could have found someone from another school, I'd have had to go alone, since the way my school was, cliquish, clannish, etc., I didn't have chance with anyone. Since I wasn't of their religion, didn't go to their relgion's elemenary schools, and on top of that, refused their degrading, humiliating, week of hazing during freshman year, I was not an option for anyone. That's good Christians for you.

If I wanted to go to a prom, I'd have had to go one at another school if I didn't want to go alone or be tormented. Since I didn't have the opportunity to meet girls from other schools, that wasn't an option either.

In Ireland it's called the Debs (short for Debutante) and I didn't go to mine. I really don't get the appeal.

I only went to a dance once. Sure, I got a ton of pictures (which I think was because I wore some tiara I got on eBay), but it was emotionally nervewracking. I doubt I'll make it out of where I live in time to go to a prom. Besides, I'm failing art class (ironically, my favorite class) and academics are more important, at least to me.

I'm quite excited for mine, actually. I have the dress (Which is AMAZING...so lovely and pouffy!), and small-talk isn't an issue as my friends either know I'm an aspie or just assume I'm quiet...and earplugs are a godsend for the music!

I had an amazing time at my school prom. I went with my best friend. He was a dance instructor and was gay so there was no pressure. We just had a great time dancing the night away while all our friends sat around and talked. We stayed out til 3 or 4 in the morning.

Here I was, sorry about the crappy photo



So yeah I had a dark blue halter top dress.

I always went to the other dances as well. I really enjoyed them. It was a reason to dress up and go on a date.

lol. I felt the same way. Also, I never really knew how to ask a girl to go and was always confused by the complexities of all that stuff.

However, the year after I graduated, I was asked to go to prom by a girl who I really liked and dated on and off for a long time; she was a senior in high school, I was in college. I told her I didn't want to go-- that I'd rather just hang out instead. Going to prom would have been too much for me, especially being out of high school-- it would feel even more awkward.

That's a nice picture I've always enjoyed dances to. I remember we had loads of discos at my junior school and I went to all of them, I just love dancing like crazy!

I wasn't going to go to my junior prom, but my friends prevailed upon me. I voluntarily went to my senior prom, and even allowed my friends to dress me up and do my hair and put makeup on me, as I had done at an earlier dance that year. I can't dance, but I was all right. The best thing about the whole evening, though, was the aftermath: getting back into my jeans and trainers and sweatshirt and washing the makeup off my face and dragging wet fingers through my hair to take out the curl and then walking home alone.

Of course I had no date, and of course I was sick with jealousy at seeing the girl I loved with her boyfriend, but that's another story.

High school was 4 years of hell for me. I wanted to spend as little time there or around the people I was forced to go to school with, so I didn't go to any school functions at all, no dances, ball games, or other such events. Just went to class and went home. I wanted to fit in, but the way they all were just wasn't my style, so I was forced to be alone. I've had no contact with anyone I went to high school with since graduation in 1986. They didn't care much for me then, why should they now?

I still don't know what the big deal about prom and school dances was supposed to be. When you've been outcasted most of your life, I guess such things don't make sense.

BTW, like your avatar. I actually have a copy of McCartney II on vinyl. Very few people liked that album, but I did. The "Waterfalls" video is on YouTube somewhere, check it out. Very well done for that time, along with "Coming Up."

I love the prom! It is a great time to be with people you know (and avoid those you don't like) and at first you may be a little shy and want to stay out but trust me when everyone starts dancing you want nothing else than to be there too! If you are 18, I find alcohol can help because you forget everything and possibly talk to lesser known people, though I rarely do that. Just not too much! I am currently trying to convince one of my less social friends to come to our final school ball (she's not autistic) because it's likely something you will remember forever and can tell your children about.
I have to admit I was never really a disco person when I was younger though, once I chose to go see a film rather than dress up and go where there was loud music, people and flashing lights. I didn't see the point.

PS you look amazing in that pic

Duct tape baby, duct tape!

Ok just decided I don't like prom dress shopping after a small meltdown in the middle of a Next outlet. Too much.

Hmm...I didnt go to prom which thank goodness I didnt cause I would've had a meltdown if I went, I personally think prom is highly highly overrated. I considered going my senior year because one friend tried to talk me into it. But then I had another friend who talked me out of it, we made a list of pros and cons and the cons outweighed the pros by 5 or 6 to 3 pros. So I didnt go, never regretted it. Didnt go to any dances during highschool either, no banquets nothing. I hated my highschool.

Now Im in college and theirs like a ton of dances all the time so I've go to them here and there but since its on campus and I live on campus, I can walk away from them whenever I want to. Actually theres only been like 2 dances that I was their more then 20 minutes. I love to dance but the social aspect of dances is what gets to me so I normally try to get drunk to sorta ease the social discomfort.

Mine was the other night. I went completely alone, no date or friends.
At first, it was kind of excruciating. Everyone ignored me and I was afraid I'd have to sit at a table all by myself. I mustered up the guts to ask a friend of a friend if I could sit with her group, though. She said I could.
Dinner was a little awkward. I didn't talk too much. The dance floor was intimidating at first, too. But they dragged me with them and showed me how to dance because I just stood there watching everyone else. I felt like a robot. But by the end of the night, I started to get the hang of it. I actually danced alot, although I wouldn't exactly say I looked very good doing so. But besides a little awkwardness, it was a good night.

I didn't go to mine.

Didn't really bother me any. There were only 30 people in my senior class anyways, and the theme was cheesey.