What are you supposed to do when you are forced on something

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Just raising a few questions here:

How to deal with a set of parents who want their child (i.e. me) to do pre-med, despite knowing that my skills and competence aren't up to the standards of medical school even up to 5, 6 years in university?

How to deal with my own parents, who only wanted me to be like them (traditional chinese medicine practioners)? What are the pros and cons of practising TCM? If practising TCM is really good for me, then will I need to take higher-order scienceclasses to do TCM? My parents said sciences aren't necessary in TCM admission. But is it really the case here? I failed science when I was in high school. (I had actually graduated from high school and looking forward to serve my country under existing conscription rules)

They just wanted me to do TCM like them as I am not successful in my own right. They said if I do TCM, I can earn a decent standard of living. This is true as they're doing well. However, I wouldn't like the idea of doing something I don't like, even with something that feeds me (ie my parents' know-how on TCM as well as my TCM training if I ever made it through TCM school). How can I nicely persuade them that I can do it my own way?

Oh yes, I am actually quite lazy, I am only interested in Geography in which my parents derided me for not doing something that pays well. It's my interests, I prefer exploration and listening to ridiculous orders as long as I am willing to pursue a job in exploring our spaces! What can I do? Should I just pile myself on immense debt, or just go the safe way and do something I hate by doing TCM?

Are there any Aspies here who had tried Pre-Med, Law or Business, what are your experiences like? Please share with me more about your experience, if not, some other Aspies' experiences that you know...

I am feeling lost... What are you supposed to do when you are forced on something that you don't like, or don't feel competent in?

Sorry for the long list of questions. I do not expect any immediate solutions, I just hope that the issue of the trade-off between personal interests with personal financial debt VS my own disinterests with financial freedom (thanks to Dad and Mom) can be analysed and evaluated, to a positive outcome that is good for all users here.

General Rules for Living:

1) You're an adult. Part of that is making decisions for yourself, even if it's not what others say you should do.

2) You bear responsibility for your decisions. If you want to go into a field where you are unlikely to get paid as much, you have to accept the possible consequences of that, and find a way to make it work.

3) Digging into debt for a field in which you are not interested is a waste of your time.

Yeah, you're the only one who knows what your interests are. You have the right to choose your path, and your parents are just going to have to get over it. If they talk down to you, i suggest thinking of ways to get the hell out of there.

As our Death Knight colleague notes, you have to assert your own intentions. On the other hand, you do not necessarily have to be confrontational.

Yes, it would be a good idea to do that.
My parents said to go to college and try that, and I didn't really want to and believe me, it has been really hard because I have no motivation to do well.
If your parents really want you to do that, you should tell them it is hard to do the work if you honestly do not want to become a TCM. I really could care less if I failed all of my classes, and therefore it would be a waste of money.

I apologized if this offends anyone, I am really tired of being gone all day at college and I have not been able to recharge my energy.

Thanks for inspiring me. Now I am more than determined to assert my intentions of being myself.