highschool reunion: did you go?

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Mine is coming up. I kinda wanna go, but not really. Did you go to yours?

A girl I went to school with who has lived on my street for the last five years - and we've never spoken - was responsible for organising ours. One day she got a mutual friend to mail me an invite - couldn't be bothered handing it over herself...

I did a bit of umming and ahhing before I realised that reunions are just like a circus freakshow - frequently organised by the remnants of the school year's social elite - because they are typically those who have the most free time - in order to fawn over the shattered dreams of those they still consider to be their inferiors.

I know exactly what happened to the majority of my grade already. Those who are worth knowing I keep in contact with. The rest were just background noise. I don't need to go to a reunion in order to partake in a curiousity display and validate my own success and existence.

The reason I did want to go though was so I could pretend I was like Martin Blank in Grosse Pointe Blank (great film!) and pretend like I was hired assassin and tell people I work at Kentucky Fried Chicken as my cover.

As for the reunion - the photos got back to me - not many people went and it was funny because the people who hated each other at school were posing together and faking smiles - purely because of a lack of participants.

Sorry if this is terse - this only happened recently.

I've never even been tempted to go to one of my HS reunions. There weren't that many people I liked and those I did aren't likely to attend a reunion, either.

It's odd because I always had this fantasy that I would come back when I "made it" and was successful and I'd lord it over everyone. But when I actually became moderately successful, I just didn't feel like lording it over anyone. And of course, people are going to ask "What do you do now?" If I lie, they will find me uninteresting because I am the world’s least creative liar. If I tell the truth they will not want to hang around because they don't want to be "outshone". Either that or they'll think I'm bragging when I could really, truly care less now. Either way, I'll find myself the wallflower again. There are just no positive outcomes I could see. I'm sure I'd get attention from those that went into real estate sales or those looking for "leads" to hawk their wares, though.

Because in my experience, someone asking what you do at any kind of reunion RARELY (if ever) really cares about what you do. They just want to tell you what THEY do or they are looking for a sale.

Is that too cynical? Am I jaded? <sigh> Hopefully, only about reunions. But until the world changes, I'm content to be the embodiment of the "ivory tower intellectual" in the literal sense.

I'm NT and have NEVER wanted to go to my high school reunion. I was neither popular or unpopular -- it just didn't interest me in the slightest.

We did go to my husband's 20th reunion. He wanted to go because he was from a small town, and he knew everyone in the high school, and liked pretty much everyone. [on the other hand, I lived in a big town, didn't know most of the people in my high school, and was fairly neutral toward everyone.] I thought the reunion was just gross. Everyone was drinking a lot, the single women were displaying themselves -- it was just disgusting. What was fascinating is, and what I think is often the case -- the people who were the unpopular people often had grown up to be goodlooking, interesting, and successful. If only you could tell kids this stuff when they are young and struggling with hard times in their high school years . . .

everyday is a High School reunion for me

And me.

I don't plan on going to mine though. I figure that I'll keep in contact with the two or three people I consider friends anyway. The only other reason to go would be to see how terrible some of their lives are. I bet I can already guess who will fail. The guys who do nothing and have no plans whatsoever would be my guess, they're nasty as people and useless as workers.

I did not go.

I am a firm believer that some things in the past should stay in the past.

Thanks for your responses, all. I agree with many of you, the people I want to keep in contact with are in my life, and most of those don't even plan on going. I talked to a few who were rather popular in their time, and even they don't plan on going.

You could always organise a mini friends reunion. I've been to a few of those and they've been fun. Good food, good drink, good company.

Now THAT is a most excellent suggestion! These are always great fun and far more viable with technologies like Facebook (et. al.) making it easier to find old schoolmates.

I am the same way, I've never been to one either.