Are you trying to prove yourself with College?

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16 Jul 2010, 9:56 pm

My parents have this view if I don't "change" I'm going to mess up again at college and as yall know they don't want me to become a Psychologist. :-( I'll never forget when I was studying it and obsessive with it (before I knew of AS/special interest etc.) I read a cute article titled "Why did you become a psychologist" One kid was like I wanted to be it since career day in 8th grade at his school another struck me to this day. (Because my parents didn't think I could,) This resignates with me to this day. :-) I feel I have ALOT to prove with going back to College and I'm saddened will I ever be up to there standards in there eyes. They are just waiting for me to mess this college experience up and I HOPE I can prove them wrong! :-(



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16 Jul 2010, 10:15 pm

It is interesting that you are choosing to become a psychologist as an aspie. It seems to me that would be a very difficult thing to do with our theory of mind problems.

Membership with the American Psychological Association in United States requires doctoral training. There are alot of BA's of psychology who end up as bartenders, waiters, and other less glamorous professions.

I won't tell you to give up on your dreams. However, I would advise that you choose a more useful major for a bachelors degree and minor in psycology.

This would leave you with the option to either continue on to earn your doctorate in psychology, or leave for the workforce with a decent paying job right after earning your bachelor's degree.

College has been way oversold on the American public, and most of the majors out there are worthless for earning a living.

The few decent ones are :

Computer science,
engineering,
natural sciences,
nursing,
and finance



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16 Jul 2010, 10:24 pm

I would try to focus more on doing a good job in school than on your parents' behavior. If they're being negative to you now, it's unlikely than graduating from school will change this (unless you're living in a Hallmark movie or something). Focus on what you want for yourself and go get it.



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16 Jul 2010, 10:26 pm

Molecular_Biologist wrote:
It is interesting that you are choosing to become a psychologist as an aspie. It seems to me that would be a very difficult thing to do with our theory of mind problems.

Membership with the American Psychological Association in United States requires doctoral training. There are alot of BA's of psychology who end up as bartenders, waiters, and other less glamorous professions.

I won't tell you to give up on your dreams. However, I would advise that you choose a more useful major for a bachelors degree and minor in psycology.

This would leave you with the option to either continue on to earn your doctorate in psychology, or leave for the workforce with a decent paying job right after earning your bachelor's degree.

College has been way oversold on the American public, and most of the majors out there are worthless for earning a living.

The few decent ones are :

Computer science,
engineering,
natural sciences,
nursing,
and finance



Ahh but alast. my area is research. I could care less about diagnosing you with AS *insert disorder* I'm amazed at the research and STUFF one can research. I want to learn HOW to start/do research mainly. :-) I also know a PhD is required so no worries there. :-) Those other fields seem neat but I've always been an analyzer questioning my world. What better thing to understand/analyze than behavior itself. :-)



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16 Jul 2010, 11:45 pm

Molecular_Biologist wrote:
It is interesting that you are choosing to become a psychologist as an aspie. It seems to me that would be a very difficult thing to do with our theory of mind problems.


I've always thought someone with AS could make a great psychologist because we take very analytical approaches to things and can offer solutions.

Some psychologists just try to sit there and empathize with a person the whole time, and personally I don't find that very helpful.

Personally I think more psychologists should be like this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1g3ENYxg9k



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17 Jul 2010, 12:01 am

I don't really care to prove anything to my parents, but I do want to prove to myself I guess though. More like see if I can do it.

I think psychology is okay for an aspie. I used to want to be a psychologist, but after seeing a few (lol) I've realized that I do not want to be a clinical psychologist. But research still intrigues me, more the neuroscience side though. If I were going into the field, I would major in neuroscience, biology, or philosophy as an undergrad, but that's really more because I have diverse interests and am not sure about what I want to do...not because I don't think you could get a career in psychology :] Especially research.

Chronos, I agree with you in that I don't think it's very helpful for a psychologist to just sit there and empathize or sympathize with you. I've quit going to psychologists for that reason, cause I can get no help from them.


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17 Jul 2010, 12:20 am

t0 wrote:
I would try to focus more on doing a good job in school than on your parents' behavior. If they're being negative to you now, it's unlikely than graduating from school will change this (unless you're living in a Hallmark movie or something). Focus on what you want for yourself and go get it.


I agree wholeheartedly.

And I think that research is an EXCELLENT idea. Your enthusiasm will pay off in that field because (I know from experience here) it's far too easy to get bored and lose interest. Somehow, I don't think that will happen with you. :wink:

Good luck to you in ALL that you do! You are doing this for YOURSELF and don't need to prove a...darn...thing to ANYONE else. :D


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04 Aug 2010, 4:55 am

Post subject: Are you trying to prove yourself with College?

YES!! !!!11 +1
On top of that, I already failed miserably the first round of attempts, so now I have to prove double.
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04 Aug 2010, 5:03 am

Psychology is a very interesting subject, I often ponder it myself. I wish you the best of luck!