New Freshman That Hates Being Around Teens

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Ok, so I will make my more formal introduction on the new person forum. The reason I am writing this post is because tomorrow is freshmen orientation, which means I will have to hang around, what people call, my age group. Let me tell you one thing about myself, since i have Aspergers, I am not like teens my age. I look and act different from them, and a great percentage of them are interested in being social and boyfriends/girlfriends, I, however, am more interested in doctor who (but I am kinda getting more interested in having a boyfriend). Over the summer I haven't made contact with any of the people I can call my friends, and I have been having more meltdowns, where I kinda want to dash from the situation giving me stress. This is usually caused by an overload of people. The bad part is I will have no contact with the teachers/my excellent speech and language pathologist who know how to deal with these meltdowns. The meltdowns have been coming more frequently and happen almost every other day.
Please Help

P.S I will update you on how tomorrow and the first week of school go

P.P.S I just checked the schedule of the events happening tomorrow, which sadly, there will be 30 minutes with my assigned counselor who I believe is a man. Then I have to go to classes which will help me find my way around . Followed by 1 hour and 30 minutes of social things like going to a barbecue, an activities fair (which my mom says I can't join any because then I can't focus all of my attention on school ) and getting photo i.d (which I don't mind).

P.P.P.S I'm starting high school and I don't mind being unpopular.

-LonelyAngel

Last edited by LonelyAngel on 30 Aug 2010, 7:49 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Welcome to WrongPlanet.

I can sympathize I find many young people to be snotty, but people in general are kind of like dogs: some you take to and some you don't and vice versa. I'd just try to find a couple of people who you have good chemistry instead of worrying about being unpopular, I have trouble with this myself. As far as meltdowns go, maybe should try to get some counseling. If your a freshman in college it should be fairly accessible for you. High schools have counselors too. Make sure you like your therapist and don't be afraid to seek out another if you don't.

I do have a therapist/psychiatrist that I see outside of school, with my mom, but I don't trust him enough yet because I have only had 3 1 hour sessions. I also will have special ed teachers who can probably deal with my stress, and as I mention above a counselor, but the in middle school I never went to see the counselor and I don't trust counselors in general because of my experience with extremely horrible therapist. I also used to have a social skills group with people who socially were way below me and the sessions were usually focused about there needs for the whole session, and I would rarely talk during this. I don't think I have a social group this year. Though you are right that if I have one to open up to I'll be able to deal with this.

P.S I have trouble opening up to a overwhelming percentage of people including adults and family members. Oh and I do have a great group of friends who I will be able to hang out with or maybe I could find some geeks.

-LonelyAngel

don't worry about it even aspies can find a group to fit into in high school... middle school is the absolute worst of it. you will at least have a few friends just find people who accept quirkiness... i felt the same way at your age and if you go to college you will definitely find even more friends. people are waaaayyy more laid back then as for meltdowns, your dr might give you some xanax i was all doped up on xanax and risperdal as a kid. bad bad stuff... jkjk

Well my mom says I will do, in the words of the Ninth Doctor fantastic and I will rock, I haven't told her about the meltdowns, but since I have this remedy to get rid of social anxiety and be confident I should be fine. So, my elective is Graphics and Design which will have tons of nerds. So this is probably my last post before bed because big day tomorrow
YAY FOR BEING HAPPY,

-LonelyAngel

First of all, good luck tomorrow.

Secondly, I know how you feel. I got over the worst of it in grade school, but I was not the "typical" high school student by any means. I had a few friends/acquaintances, all of them a little "odd" in their own way.

Does your school allow student clubs? If so, see if there's a Sci-Fi/Fantasy Club already; if not, create one yourself. The one at my school was short-lived (sadly) but we were a very...interesting group of people.

I hope your coping skills for the meltdowns are successful. I'm sure you'll find people you can "click" with in Graphics and Design--it's an elective (read: people who actually WANT to be there) in an area that interests you.

Let us know how things go. Again, good luck tomorrow, and welcome to WP. I'm glad you found us.

I am up and I really hope I won't start having a meltdown (this involves freezing up, immediately wanting to run, being more quiet than I am and I am pretty quiet). There will be friends that I know at the barbecue and some people I hate like the people from my social skills group, but I will stay far away as possible from them. I hope there is caffeine either after I go home as a treat, or at the barbecue(which I highly doubt because school is suppose to be healthy, but there were cokes at the school dance). Also, my mom won't let me join any of the clubs because she says that I need to focus all of my attention on school work. It is 6:42 am in the wonderful state of CT and I am ready to face the day. Just need to wait an hour and 13 minutes before going to freshman orientation, need more of the remedies to decrease social anxiety and increase confidence.

-LonelyAngel

Just got home from Freshmen Orientation and I like high school. I am still nervous because I have no clue where my locker is. I got the sheet telling where it is, but I didn't look at the locker numbers. So still nervous, but it will be fun. I still can't believe I have been through preschool to eighth grade.

-LonelyAngel

Enjoy it!