Was your transition to college/uni a smooth one?

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Mine was not all that smooth. Back in the days of my first year university, all I did was sit in my room, go to the cafe when I'm hungry, and go to class. That was it. I did not explore different things such as what there was around the university and stuff.

During my first week of classes, my mom had to constantly call me to introduce me to the school website that had all the information, posted lecture notes, etc...

My brother was in the same university (a few years older) and my mom made my brother come to my room to help me buy books at the bookstore (I was not taking the responsibilty to buy books, but I think I didn't have a visa account so I didn't have enough money anyway).

So, how was your transition to post-secondary education?

Very difficult in both a social and educational sense. My secondary school did not adequately prepare me for university at all. I had no idea how to cite sources or develop my own study plan. I was lucky my classes were so small or I would never have made any friends.

I was lucky my program was small. During orientation we were grouped together and we were pretty much "friends by default". I switched to another program now and I have trouble making new friends.

It was pretty smooth. My university is awesome for that. People are encouraged to be friendly here.

My parents helped me out a lot in the beginning, but I am now pretty much independent.

Pretty smooth so far. I had zero social skills until this summer, possibly due to an obvious underlying etiology, possibly not, I decided to jump in the deep end, and remarkably I have passable social skills in that short a time. I started drinking with people in my class, got to know them due to the decreased inhibition and seriously declined standards of conversation inherent with alcohol, and lost a lot of the social anxiety I had. I can talk to random people now easily enough.

400 people in your degree is very difficult though, you get to know almost no-one for a while, and it doesn't help when your the "weirdest" person in the class (from my guesses, everyone else seems like your run of the mill, happy-go-lucky socialite). Overall though the anonymity makes it easier than secondary school

Yeah. I dropped out of high school and I'm doing excellent so far in college. I love it.

My first year I did badly both academically and socially. I went to a CC and my HS didn't prep me for anything relating to the higher realm of education so I didn't have any good study habits, research paper knowledge, or anything. I didn't really talk to anyone, I had two good acquaintances though...who I never spoke to again after my first semester. Since I didn't know where to go for help (and before I got diagnosed with anything, which probably could have helped me) I failed my first semester and didn't go back to college for like a year.

I was undiagnosed then. It was horrible, to the point I dropped out and was failing 3 of my 5 classes. My dormmate moved out because of my hygiene issues and the fact I never left. I stopped going to class and got obsessed with a boy I met online.

Now I go to a different college where I live at home and commute so no more academic woes, but I have no friends. My only acquaintance graduated so now thee most I talk is occasionally someone will say hi or something. If I lived on campus things would be even worse.

Sometimes I wonder how other people with AS love college and make friends when I seem mild compared to them (don't stim, I am very, very polite to people I don't know, I don't have meltdowns, etc).

I'm in the same boat...totally agree with your last paragraph. I've got mild AS and my college experience is so lame, even now.

I failed 4 out of 5 (actually 2 were W-I's, one was a W, one an F, and I got a D in history). I stopped going to class too, and this was around the time I discovered internet message boards so studying was a no go. Addicted to the internet? that's me! I failed English because I didn't do an oral presentation, though I had a B. I was an art major and the classes were so laid back it was bs. I like structure and in art class there was none so I just gave up.

That was all when I lived at home and now I live away on campus and my social life is still going nowhere. I talk to some people in class and I like them a lot better than the roommates who now ignore me.

I'm not in university yet, but I found the transition from high school to sixth form to be wonderful; a vast improvement. It was probably because I was stuck doing a high proportion of subjects I didn't like, to the extent that I had to spend lessons in the sick bay of my school because I couldn't cope. After dropping all of the subjects I didn't like and only take the ones that I do like, English specifically, I've been much happier and more focused on my work.

Therefore, I think that university will be an improvement even further, since I'll go down from three subjects to one, which will be even more narrow and focused, and I don't mind living away from home. I'd rather set my own routine than continue having to go out whenever my parents want me to and getting panicked over that.

i describe my college experience as high school part 2. i loved the college academically, socially it was hell on earth. i had two terrible complete opposite roommates my first 2 years. i was subject to verbal, physical, and mental abuse. i had one decent friend who became my roommate junior year, but half way through the year, he joined a fraternity and we stopped hanging out all together. senior year, i got a room by myself and basically had a mental breakdown and left like a month later. my "friends" changed every year, i never tried or even thought to make friends in my classes. i had a job in a dining hall but that was just busy work and not a good place to make friends either for me. i joined the radio station, again, no friends out of that. i spent the majority of my weekends, meals, activities alone. i finished up at local college commuting and by that point, all i cared about was to get the hell out asap.

I've been in college for three weeks now, and it's okay so far. I love all my classes and professors, but I haven't made any friends yet. Socially college feels a lot like high school, which is not a good thing. At least I don't have a roommate to deal with. All in all, I think the transition's been pretty smooth. I'm not an anxious wreck, anyway. Hopefully the social stuff will get better soon.