university crisis

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hi.

i am in university and i get so into my classes that i do all the work before the first wek is up AND i remember everthing. so in order to "fit in " i offered some of the slower students a free tutorial 3 days a week.

it was going fine for a while. they sem to understand that i can only talk about the course and no "small talk". however, the other day one of the women was really upset and stressing out. i didn't know what was happening at the time, but after agonizing over all night, i realized that she was angry at me. i think she was taking her stress out on me becasue she kept makeing rude remarks about my spelling, and my writing and that the questions were too hard.

anyway, i haven't been able to go back to the class since.
she sits right behind me ( i can't change seats) and i am afraid of haveing another "interaction" (of any kind) with her.

there are only four more lectures untill the course is over.

how do i deal with this?

i have no social skills on the best of days, and i have reacted to this so badly that i've reverted back to not being able to leave the house or have interactions with anyone.
i'm afraid i might have to check myself in.

How do you know she was angry at you? I mean, we don't always read social cues properly, so it could be that she had a lot going on in her life and you became a target of undirected aggression. How do you avoid it? If it's really bothering you, then tell her that she needs to calm down or that she should find someone else to tutor her.

I personally hate to explain myself to people whom are really thick headed. I mean, many aspies can be that way. I hate it because people get all too emotional, and I no longer have control of the situation. You can't control people's emotions, so just tell her to calm down or refer her to someone else. I would have a tendency, if I am forced to stay around such a person, to just get quite annoyed and say: "Can't you get it through your head?" Of course, that wouldn't be wise.

- Ray M -