Remembering bullies, wondering about triggers

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I'm just after talking with someone on Facebook about school bullies and it reminded me of my days of being bullied. During the discussion I remembered that I never got help because I was hopeless at looking for help when in trouble. And then I remembered that I used to just remain expressionless through everything that was thrown at me (literally and figuratively), and it dawned on me that they could have been trying to get a facial expression or some kind of emotional expression out of me as I rarely showed any emotion or even spoke much. Do you think this is likely? Is this what bullies are after?

I really think in a lot of cases people being bullied are just an added link in a chain of abuse. I think it's quite often the bullies themselves come from a dysfunctional home life. Either the parents, a new step parent, or an older sibling push them around.

As for how to deal with a bullying situation it's tough. I think often the victim feels the cards are stacked against them. They figure responding and fighting back will only get them detention. Or maybe the school listens, disciplines the bully, then the bully retaliates. At least these are typically the thoughts I had about the situation dealing with this nonsense.

It seems to me that people being bullied have to respond somehow even including violence(no weapons though just fists). It depends on age and size difference of course. Some fights are hopeless.

The bully is like the "Alpha" student though and needs to be challenged somehow. Possibly save up money and pay or bribe some jocks do beat down the bully if they're to strong for you.

Again though while I discuss use of violence somethings are out of line. Don't bring a knife or weapon that just takes this to an insane level.

Aww *hugs* Don't feel bad about being bullied it happens to aspies in general. It's because they are not very understanding of us being gifted

Just showing up got me beaten up.

For me it does not even have to be triggered and its not even as simple as just remembering what took place....its like the things people have said are encoded in my brain so its kind of like if you get a song stuck in your head except I get to remember various insults as if they are being said all over again......I prefer getting music stuck in my head it is much more pleasent.