Odd and Highly Confusing Social Situation-Please Help!

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Here's the background: I am a girl in 6th grade. There are three other people I am going to be mentioning. I will be referring to them as A, B, and C. They are all male, so I'm sorry for the pronouns.
So. The actual story. A is a bully who has recently a)threatened to pound my face into the ground and have people draw on it, b)detailed several unique methods for my slow, violent, and painful death at his hand (which he would record and send in to a show called "1000 Ways To Die") and c)introduced me to the insult "ratchet", which I am told is a general insult covering crazy, ugly, weird hair, and stupid. (I pretend this is ironic because a)he's not the kid who actually does physically attack me and b)in reality, he is the stupid one, my hair is simply varied, I'm no judge of ugliness, but considering the number of kids who don't know my name who claim they like me, and this was an absolutely deranged speech by him.)
Speaking of kids saying they like me (and that's awkward enough) I have recently begun to recieve messages from B and C. B's not too trustworthy, but C might be credible. Both of them together means it's probably real. The messages are regarding A's desire to go out with me. He claims his heart is broken every time I send B or C back with a resounding no.
In conclusion, I have a deranged and violent bully who formerly (or perhaps still) hates me claiming to like me. Help, please!

Don't trust the bullies. It's a common humiliation technique to pretend to like you, then savagely mock you in public for "being in love" with them if you respond in a positive way. It's basically a form of sexual harassment.

Tell the school authorities that you're being bullied.

I would not trust them. People rarely change so radically over night. The world is not Glee.

@naturalplastic: No can do. My parents have been waging war against my school since the beginning of time, trying to help me. I was always annoyed because I thought that they didn't care about verbal bullying, but for physical attacks they would suspend you. I have now discovered that they don't do anything even if I am physically attacked. They know very well that I'm being bullied. They just don't care. They meaning administrators/the school.

You need an official record of what is going on. For that you need to report this.

1. Tell the school you are being bullied, and by who.

2. Tell your parents you are being bullied, and by who.

And for your own protection:

3. Start taking martial arts classes. No arguing about this--just do it. Your parents, the teachers, and any other adults aren't always around when you need them. Actually, bullies try to pick such times to attack, so you need to learn to protect yourself. Go to your parents and insist on martial arts classes, so you can protect yourself. You will need their permission to enroll, as you are minor aged. If they can't afford it right now, ask one of your grandparents or another relative for help in funding at least the first year's sessions. Another possible source of help is to check with battered women's shelters to see if they know of any low cost martial arts programs. Also, check with the local police. They might know of some low cost martial arts programs in your area.

Please take my advice, and that of the other responders here seriously. These creeps you are dealing with are predators. Right now they have their sites on you as one of their prey victims.

Remember, report it to your parents and the school, and start taking martial arts! Good luck!

If you have access to Krav Maga; sign up for it.

Krav Maga was developed to be taught to Israeli commandos quickly and is ideal for fighting in bad situations (3 on 1, weapon vs no weapon, etc)

You can get a quick foundation and it will make you more comfortable.

You as a human being have an natural right to self defense. Exercise it. Bullies pick on the weak, become stronger than them.

To this day, I regret not taking classes and kicking a few asses in elementary school. This is the real anti-bullying.

The anti-bullying you see in the media is a f'ing joke. It's based on the idea that we will all sit down and sing kumbaye over a fire place. Schools don't do crap.

Want to stop out bullying, teach kids self defense, and let them kick the ass of some bullies.