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I will be starting at St. Andrews University in North Carolina for my second bachelors degree starting January 2014. I am an aspie who is very social. There is something I would enjoy immensely if it presented itself, make aspie and autie friends at St. Andrews. At my job over the summer I finally met some fellow members of the spectrum around my age and I loved it. We had so much in common. The one issue is they were camping and then had to go home and although I plan to stay in touch it's not like we can hang out being they don't live near me. So if you are a member of the spectrum going to St. Andrews please contact me by commenting on this topic. I would love to become friends with you. I would love to start a friendship before I get to school in January.

It always fascinates me to hear about aspies who are social. It seems like a contradiction given our diagnosis. I know we all have different deficits, but I always seem to hear that our social deficit is the most common.

Qualitative impairments in social interaction is the first criteria in the DSM-IV book, so it's a mystery to me how an aspie can socialize at a meetup group, for instance. I can't. Drag me to one and I'll remain so quiet you'd think I wasn't even there.

Oh I have social deficits and extreme social anxieties. Even though I'm a social person being social doesn't always go well for me. It is better now that I'm an adult but when I was a kid in school my overly talkative, obsessive, lack of understanding of jokes and sarcasm, and anxious demeanor was the cause of extreme bullying. Those things still cause problems for me sometimes, which is why I love becoming friends with fellow members of the spectrum. I can talk hours about one subject and they won't care and they understand sensory issues and won't judge me foe them.

The problem is not social interaction per se. It's to know how to act and selecting which interactions you are willing to make.

Aspies are still aspies and they can be irritating to be around even though I understand the social challenges they have.

I have never met another Aspie IRL (except maybe one, to whom I never actually talked). I find that kind of annoying; I would like the opportunity to meet someone else with Asperger's, if only to meet someone else with Asperger's