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02 Nov 2013, 8:02 pm

Anime clubs, GSA, etc... I've been noticing advertisements all over campus lately. Do you think they're an okay place for Aspies to meet people?



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03 Nov 2013, 8:51 am

I was into school clubs in 6th grade and in 8th grade and hated them, except one.
My mother had signed me in for the drawing and music club and I hated them both. I love both drawing and music; I just didn't like having to be with other people I didn't know. I was sitting alone all the time, I never spoke and made no friends.
In 8th grade I was into the music club and I had been very very shortly into the volleyball club as well. I quit going to the volleyball club after a week but I must admit that the music club was pretty nice. I made some friend there and used to have fun.
Now I'm in HS and I'm never going to enter a club again. Ever.



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03 Nov 2013, 6:55 pm

^To each their own. I'm currently involved with four clubs at my college, one of which I'm vice president, and I love it. Sure, you're still going to have to work at it a little if you want to make friends, but the same could be said for any other school setting, so why not give it a try? Plus clubs like to go on outings and schedule events around campus, and, if nothing else, they often have free food at their meetings. :wink:


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04 Nov 2013, 6:49 am

I'n in nearly every club my school offers



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04 Nov 2013, 5:06 pm

Regarding high school clubs, I was in a club and it changed my life for the better-might not be on here or in my situation if I didn't join it. Of course, it was a club with people who were engaged and didn't all join it just to add it to a college application.


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04 Nov 2013, 6:50 pm

I think that they're an excellent place to meet people. The key is to show up to every activity they have, so that people get to know you. I found volunteer organizations the best, and clubs related to my major were really good also.



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05 Dec 2013, 9:50 pm

I think clubs are a good place to meet people, though it might depend on the club and the people in the club. It's worth a try. :P

However, clubs have not always worked for me in the past. There are some I dropped because I never really had fun had the events, even though the feeling of volunteering was nice. I was just never social enough to take the initiative to talk to others and those types of clubs were too big anyway.

I find that smaller clubs, clubs where you prepare for a competition, and being an officer of the club helps. Being an officer kind of forces others to have to talk to you and you can go off from there. :lol:


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23 Dec 2013, 12:14 am

Some clubs are good and some clubs are not. My mom always told me to try something more than once so I wouldn't be ruled by "meta-emotion." The first time I go, I am just there all nerve endings, and I think I hate it. The second time, I am pretty sure everyone wishes I would leave because I am too strange. And the third time, I can usually figure out if it suits me or if I really don't like it.



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12 Jan 2014, 3:51 am

Actually, both of the clubs you mentioned I'm in- anime club and GSA. I finally worked up the nerve to join anime club last year, and our GSA was just started this year. I'm straight but have friends who are bi. I'm also on my school's reading team, but only for looks and not desire now. My ex- best friend kind of leads it, and depression took away my interest in reading. I didn't want to quit because I've been in it since seventh grade and this is my last year (I'm a senior) and I didn't want to disappoint our adviser (the librarian). I joined math club last year too, but I quit recently since the adviser is my physics teacher, and I've had some bad experiences with his class.

As for making friends, the reading team people were always either friends or acquaintances, except for now (I'm not the leader's buddy anymore so I'm an outcast, you know?). I was alone in anime all year until we went to a con :D :heart: :D. One of the people I rode with was in chorus with me and she talked to me after that. I became friends with her and her friend, and then on friendly terms with most of the rest of anime club.


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12 Jan 2014, 1:53 pm

Clubs give you a common interest to discuss so they can be a good way to meet people since you'll at least have something to talk about.



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16 Jan 2014, 7:03 am

I've never tried to join any sort of school-based club. My school's just too small and pretty much everyone knows each other, and I have a few friends but using it as an opportunity to meet new people wouldn't work, as they already know me and most of my peers ignore me. Also, it's an arts specialist school that I go to for different reasons, so all of the activities are art-based when I just can't draw.



22 Jan 2014, 2:46 am

i rally like this thread.. thanks for sharing