Wishing I could graduate

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Does anybody else just not like high school? I don't fit in, not just because I have Asperger's, but also because I have an activist-like personality--not a lot of high school students are like that. And forget being in a comfortable setting--I'm surrounded by constant social stimulation 24/7 and when my brain is processing it all, I get anxious. I wish I could graduate right now, but I'm staying strong.

~raising hand~

I was so happy once I was out of high school and living on my own and could go where I want and with whom. Once I had a few cities worth to choose from, instead of just one campus, I found loads of really interesting friends, which my Mother had always despaired me not having. Like, if only I "tried harder", I'd get people to like me... when really, that wasn't the problem at all... it was whether I liked them or not. ~smh~ She still doesn't get me in that regard.

So, yeah, the whole situation noisy and focused on things I found totally forgettable (such as sports, pop culture, television and partying... none of which were of any interest to me), so, I didn't like it.

At the same time, it did get me into good habits which served me well in college (being organized, learning how to best interact with the teachers and other students). It'll be over before you know it.

You WILL graduate soon!

I know it seems like things are going slow now---but it will happen!

That was essentially me in Elementary and Middle School. The darkest, most unhappy times of my life happened in the 9 years I spent at those two schools. I was definitely happy to finally graduate from those places, but at the same time I was somewhat sad to leave because as bad as they were, that was what I was familiar with and I had no idea if what would come next would be better or worse.

High school was actually the best 4 years of my life because it was a small alternative HS and everyone understood each other and we all had our hard times in the past. The 2 months or so I spent in public HS felt like it was Hell and I could have never survived there or did as well as I did and still do academically.

Thank u! That's the motivation I need!

I can't wait until I graduate. I'm tired of the sleep-deprivation, the busy work, and how some of the "best students the school has to offer" can't get it through their head how the real world works (I run a club that works a bit differently and I really wish I could run it like an actual business without listening to everyone's emotional and personal excuses to why they can't get work done). I also get annoyed at people who waste their time going out with friends way too much and then wonder how their grades got so low.

I'll miss high school in some ways, but in the end, it seems a lot less stressful in college. I can't wait until I can sleep for a normal amount of hours and take classes that actually interest me. I just have senior year, SATs/ACTs, college applications, extracurriculars, and scholarships to get out of the way before then.

Only several months left for the both of us! Good luck to you!

I personally liked school for the most part. Sure I was teased a bit and a lot of people didn't really understand me, but there were a lot of good things as well. I had some close friends to hang out with, I was involved in some fun extracurricular activities like debate, music and drama; I enjoyed learning and studying different subjects -- especially in college -- plus there's something about the whole atmosphere (for lack of a better word) of academic buildings that fascinates me.

In fact, probably the most depressing time of my life was the years right after I graduated from college. I was so used to being around my peers on a regular basis for so many years, and suddenly I didn't have that anymore...it was difficult to get used to. I also had a much harder time adapting to the work force than I ever did to anything in school.

I'm sorry to hear that high school hasn't been good for you. I hope you'll like college better.

The actual work you'll do in college will probably be a lot more stressful and time-consuming than it is in high school; however, you do have the priveledge of choosing your own classes (aside from some GED requirements), so that might make it easier for you.

The social life in college isn't quite as cliquey as it is in high school, but you'll still run into people who seem to care more about partying than anything else -- especially now that their parental attachments are cut loose. And, depending on where you choose to live, getting along with roommates can sometimes be a challenge, especially for Aspies. (Luckily for me, at my first college I had an apartment manager who tried to match roommates according to their personalities. That helped a lot.)

I hope it goes well for you.

That's what teachers keep telling me, but most of the time, friends in college tend to be able to do more leisurely activities and sleep more than I do. Last year I was up doing homework all night while a freshman in college said "Night! I have to wake up at 9 AM" at like... 10 PM. He also told me "I have so much free time I don't know what to do with it!" I slept at 2 AM and had to wake up at 6 AM. I'm in this really rigorous program at school so most of the students in it consider college to be a break.

I'm nervous about the roommate thing though, but most of all I'm nervous about what college I'd be able to get into. I want to stay a bit close to home--at least in California. How often do they do the roommate match thing though?

Thanks!

That's probably because they're putting off some of their assignments. The main difference between high school and college in terms of work is that in high school, much of your schedule is already set up for you; in college, you can set your own schedules. But deadlines are still deadlines, and if you don't get started on an assignment soon enough, you'll find yourself pulling some rather unpleasant all-nighters for several days in a row.

Still, regardless of the freedom you'll have with scheduling your work, I can tell you that the amount of work you'll do in college will easily exceed what you did in high school.



I have no idea, unfortunately. The first college I went to was a pretty small one (just a two-year), so I'm sure that made it much easier for the manager to deal with such things. On a larger campus it's much less likely.

Still, if you're passionate about the field of study you want to pursue, I think you'll enjoy college for the most part. Then after that comes the hardest part: Real life.

Me ! ! I am also liberal and cannot find anyone in my public high school who shares the same interests. People are not interested in actually learning or questioning the system.
It's also unnecessarily long-40 hours a week-which is the average work week. And they say these are supposed to be the best years of your life...

Oooh. Real life. Yup definitely a lot more anxious about that than I am for college.

I know I want to do something in S.T.E.M. (medicine or astrophysics most likely), and after hearing a lot of the cool opportunities friends are getting, I'm going to look for a lot of research options during undergrad. Have a lab that will definitely let me work there if I go to Stanford, but that depends on whether I'm able to get accepted there or not.

Meh, even with work being stressful sometimes, I still prefer real life over school and living at home with my parents.
I like having the control and not constantly being forced into situations I do not like.
My family, husband and kids, have gotten used to things like not making loud noises and keeping the lights off unless we really need them on. It's good. (the only thing is when my husband invites other kids over to play, I can only take so much of their noise until I have to ask them nicely to leave)

Ditto, Ditto, Ditto, etc.

I don't hate high school since I'm home schooled, but I do want to be over with school and move on to college.

I would say that this is quite a "normal desire." A healthy one, in fact.