Making friends in college?

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I am a freshmen at a large university, and I have not made any friends yet (despite being here for about five months now). Is this normal for Aspies at all? It takes me a long time to make friends in any situation, but even in high school it didn't take this long. All the girls seem really stereotypical uber-NT girls, and all the guys just start hitting on me if I try to hang out with them (normally I get along better with guys). I'm not depressed or anything, I'm only an hour away from my hometown and I can visit my other friends quite frequently if I wanted to... I'm just curious - how long did it take you to find at least one person that could be considered a "friend" in college?

I had the freaks following me in college (the gay goth guy, the mute punk rocker, etc) which was weird. I was the lead freak. I can only remember a few names, and few faces, but its been 6 years. Never really made good friends though.

It didn't take me that long, but I had a devious plan all worked out. I go to a college know for "weird" kids anyway. I was transferring in as a second-semester sophomore, and basically i paid for a keg to throw a party and made friends with the party kids. I basically bought in, I’m still with that scene now... it's gotten way redundant but they are an easy crowd to get along with, and accepting as long as you drink. I find that its easier to get along with inebriated NTs, and some inebriation yourself may go along way in helping out your sociability.

I'm going to college this fall,and I'm quite scared.

I think it will be even more nerve-racking,because I'll have my psychiatric service dog by then.


-SpaceCase

My suggestion would be to try to find an activity or society you like and try and get heavily involved in it. In my first year at uni I had hardly any friends, but was in a society that goes out walking each weekend, an activity I enjoy.
At the end of the year I joined the committee for that society and have now been both Treasurer and secretary. It helped me make friends and I am now much happier.
There will be people similar to you somewhere in a large university. You've just got to find them.

I am I freshman as well and this is semester number two. Still haven't made any friends outside of kids that I knew in highschool. I'm not too terribly worried about it, I figure friendships will come about on their own, I can't handle the stress of trying to actively seak friends. I'm a nice person and I generally get along with people so the friendships will come in time.

5th year senior, never made any friends. I'm done this spring, so I don't really care about it anymore.