Anyone here wish they were never mainstreamed?

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18 Dec 2019, 7:40 am

My aunt posted this article on her Facebook in reference to her daughter who has Down Syndrome and I'm curious if anyone else here feels mainstreaming did them more harm than good.

https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/dum ... 74f0f657c1



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19 Dec 2019, 1:02 pm

I'm glad I went to mainstream school. It would have made me feel alienated when talking about childhood days among my NT family and friends, and it would just be another thing I'd have to lie about to people I've only known in my adult life, other than my diagnosis.


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27 Dec 2019, 2:56 am

I have mixed feelings about being mainstreamed, now it was good for me, it helped me learn to adapt and adjust and basically get a better education than those in special education. However, I lost all my benefits, had no help even when I struggled inside, and got really angry (had anger issues) regarding the fact that my brother could just kick back and not work hard and stay in special ed. But I suppose it depends upon the Special Education Program at each school, some schools have good Special Ed programs, with great counselors and teachers that know how to work with disabled kids, most of the time, however, they hire a teacher with no special training and just make the coursework 2-3 weeks behind the regular course, while being lenient on failing students because they are 'disabled', that's not a way to learn, so I feel getting mainstreamed is beneficial for your education, but extremely stressful.


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03 Jan 2020, 8:02 am

I went to a skewl for dyslexia through 2nd half of 6th grade & 8th & I feel I did alot better there than in mainstream skewl. I was bullied a lot till I started going to the dyslexic skewl & I struggled majorly in most every class before I went there. I didn't think I was bullied that much in high-skewl but looking back I realize I was being made fun of & I was too retarded to realize it at the time. I took the easiest courses I could in high-skewl & I did better in the 1s I chose to take instead of the required courses. The reason I didn't go to the dyslexic skewl sooner was cuz my parents didn't know about it & it didn't do high-skewl & only went up to 8th.


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08 Jan 2020, 12:55 am

I was not disabled enough to get into special school and never fitted into mainstream school.
I envy the kids with more severe Autism, down syndrome and other disabilities that allow them to go to special school and get extra funding and support from the government.
I am just seen as an idiot by most people and they believe Aspergers is an excuse.
I regret not quitting school at 14 or 15 and skipped High school and college. Wasting years at school and college only lead to me becoming unemployable with no chance of ever working.



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08 Jan 2020, 11:23 am

It is not so much being mainstreamed that I found objectionable; it was the way I was mainstreamed, wherein the slightest social infraction or scholastic setback resulted in physical punishment or at least an hours-long lecture full of blaming, shaming, insults and threats.

I sometimes wish that I had been coddled, but the past is over and cannot be changed.

At least I survived it.


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08 Jan 2020, 11:33 am

I was only identified ASD in 2018, and I don't even believe there were alternative settings available for autistic learners when I went to school.

I was mainstreamed except for three years of speech therapy (withdrawal service).

I do wish I had more individualised attention because I was overwhelmed by the lights, sounds, and social pressures of large classrooms. I was absolutely terrified every second of my learning life.



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08 Jan 2020, 11:42 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I do wish I had more individualised attention ...
My Dad: "Are you SPECIAL now? Do you want everyone to treat you like King Jesus? If I give that to you, then I'll have to give that to <* pointing *> him, him, her, her, and her! You want attention? <* SMACK *> Well you got it. Now stop crying or I'll give you something to REALLY cry about! ..."

Gawd ... I hate these flashbacks ...


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08 Jan 2020, 11:42 am

Fnord wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I do wish I had more individualised attention ...
My Dad: "Are you SPECIAL now? Do you want everyone to treat you like King Jesus? If I give that to you, then I'll have to give that to <* pointing *> him, him, her, her, and her! You want attention? <* SMACK *> Well you got it. Now stop crying or I'll give you something to REALLY cry about! ..."

Gawd ... I hate these flashbacks ...


Me too. My mother said I was useless as tits on a bull.

Fun times.



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08 Jan 2020, 11:53 am

No. Mainsteaming kept the doors open for me when I needed them.



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08 Jan 2020, 11:59 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Fnord wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I do wish I had more individualised attention ...
My Dad: "Are you SPECIAL now? Do you want everyone to treat you like King Jesus? If I give that to you, then I'll have to give that to <* pointing *> him, him, her, her, and her! You want attention? <* SMACK *> Well you got it. Now stop crying or I'll give you something to REALLY cry about! ..." Gawd ... I hate these flashbacks ...
Me too. My mother said I was useless as tits on a bull. Fun times.
Here's a picture to make us all feel better...

Image


:D


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08 Jan 2020, 12:13 pm

No, I am very glad I was mainstreamed. (Not that there was any other option then, as there was no such thing as Asperger's diagnosis when I went to elementary school and junior high. )

I shiver to think of what kind of "education" I would have received in a spec ed school. The types of kids there are also not the type I would have anything in common with, their disabilities and behavior would be on a whole other level than mine. I would have been mortified if I had been put with kids like that.

Nor would I have anything to gain from it: The only thing I needed back then was more help with maths and later also sciences. No different than the kids in school who struggled with dyslexia.


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08 Jan 2020, 12:18 pm

The kids on the Spectrum who are in my school district tend to be much better off in designated autism support classes.

Inspectors actually come and make sure the teacher is using proper strategies and procedures. There’s a lot more individualized instruction, too, to meet the needs of each kid.

Kids who are bumped into mainstream often don’t have enough support.

I’ve been subbing in an autism support classroom, and I’ve just been really impressed with the quality of care and instruction that those kids are being given.



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08 Jan 2020, 12:19 pm

Fnord wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Fnord wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I do wish I had more individualised attention ...
My Dad: "Are you SPECIAL now? Do you want everyone to treat you like King Jesus? If I give that to you, then I'll have to give that to <* pointing *> him, him, her, her, and her! You want attention? <* SMACK *> Well you got it. Now stop crying or I'll give you something to REALLY cry about! ..." Gawd ... I hate these flashbacks ...
Me too. My mother said I was useless as tits on a bull. Fun times.
Here's a picture to make us all feel better...

Image


:D


Image

Ducks too!



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08 Jan 2020, 11:59 pm

I needed alot more individual attention catering to my learning style than I got in mainstream skewl. Part of the reason I didn't have any desire to go to college was cuz I struggled so much in mainstream skewl that I felt like I would never be able to pass the remedial courses I'd need to take when starting community college.


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