AS and Parties

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Luckily I have some friends in my hall who are in fraternities, and have invited me to some of their parties. Now, I don't drink large amounts, but the party scenario with drinking and all seems to ease socializing as a lot for me. I know this is really the case with anybody, but it seems to help my AS a lot. Anyone else experience this?

I really urge you to be careful.

I started drinking because it eased my social unease. I kept drinking because I was anxious alot...I didn't understand NT's and the whole social thing. I never knew why they did what they did, and what came next.

And then I kept on drinking...

And now, at 40, I am almost two years sober.

I wasn't one of those heavy drinkers for most of my life....but I drank.

So, yes, I know what you are talking about. Also be forewarned that some of the things we do without thinking, the funny comments, or wierd things we say, they still come out when we're drunk, but people just say to themselves, well, they're drinking, that's why they said that. You still want to bang your head against a wall the next day when you remember some of the stupid things you said. Why people look at you oddly sometimes. It just feels easier to you.

Just a thought.

Yes, consider the possiblities. I agree that alcohol can greatly ease the social anxieties of AS, but there can be a downside. I went from social drinking to drinking in the evening to help shut off my incessant internal monologue, so I could get to sleep - also because I married young and though I loved her dearly, I've always had trouble sleeping in the same house, let alone same room, let alone same bed with another human being. What I'm saying is, keep in mind that you may be creating a new routine for yourself, which combined with potential addictive properties may be extremely difficult to break. I've never carried a flask in my pocket, nor drank during the day, nor driven about in a state of inebriation. But I've been drinking myself to sleep since 1979.

I drink too, but its weird.
Alcohol tastes like crap unless I'm with friends. I can't have a beer with my dad because it's so bitter, but when I'm with friends it tastes sweet. Very odd.
You should try to find your limits. You will realize when you should stop drinking, because there are symptoms that clearly say that. If you feel weird at your belly, or realize that things seem to go faster than they should or notice that you aren't being yourself STOP before you throw up.
I got to know my limit, never going farther than it, so I never got sick or really drunk luckily. I just know how much I can drink.

My word of advice: drink only in social occasions and never more than once a week. Before drinking eat something. And don't drink only alcoholic beverages, drink water or sodas too in order to prevent a future hangover.

Yes! Drinking GREATLY improves my social abilites! I'm like... magically transformed into a normal (drunk) person. I literally don't get invited to parties at ALL, however, but I basically just go to the areas near my school where they occur and go in. Usually it's like five dollars or sometimes I just sort of crash. But when I'm drunk I can actually talk to people. It even helps me when I'm sober because I can think about how I would act when drunk. The only problem is that when I'm sober I just kind of sit around being too depressed and lacking the will power to go out and talk to people.

A different perspective:

The way I see it, if there's a party where one of the requisites is to get hammered, it's not worth going to... Doing so is playing by the NT's social rules...

There are plenty of group activities out there that are more AS-friendly... I've done house construction as part of a college-age mission trip for my church, and the people I met on that trip were really great people. Granted, since we were in new orleans, they all wanted to go to the french quarter every night, but they didn't think less of me for not taking them up on the offer (also, with the bunch of them out for the night, I could get some quality alone time). Regardless, I felt more socially capable in that group merely because the social paradigm of the group was different...

So my word of advice to you is this: community-based and/or faith-based groups are definitely good groups to consider. Even if you aren't interested in any of the activities that they do, you still fall in with the "right" crowd, and socializing becomes easier without requiring the use of booze...

may help u be funny and get friends @ parites... w=but when they invite you to non-drinking events and you still do that stupid s**t (cause it's AS and not booze making be so random or w/e)... the party invites may stop.

yuuuup
i forgot i had AS for a few years because I drank so much
i did some pretty bad stuff
it happened, it happens
i can't deal with hangovers anymore which i'm guaranteed to get,..i just feel depressed all day
but looking back past all the mistakes i made, i never would have left my house if i did not drink. as sad or after school special problem as it sounds, it helped and i think i had fun doing it

I tried my first beer during a recent camping trip, and I didn't like it. I would never drink another one.

i drink... a lot.... about the equivalent of 2 bottles of wine per day i guess
i drink to ease my depression
and thats a bad thing i know, but...i cant help it

I like people when they're a little tipsy, but I lose respect for people who are too drunk.

the first time i sobered up i hung onto that whatever seems best at the time decision making process, i cant say ive done too bad with it

a bunch of my friends don't drink and come to parties anyway, that could be a good ida if you want to increase your confidence talking to people or whatever

though im still just drinking with my friends from high school, i didn't realize i would get no opportunities to meet new people this year, or at least none i could navigate

I used get drunk/use drugs to help myself fit in. It didn't work for long. Now I am sober and I have REAL friends. I didn't meet them at parties or bars.

I just went to a party over the weekend. It was so much fun! They had this blinky light thingy and a smoke machine which went off practically non-stop! lol