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How do you cope with failures?

I remember I got 0 for a test, I felt so bad that I felt that it was like the end of the world... So I took quite some time to recover from this, which happened in my sophomore year. Now I am a senior in high school... So I really look forward to college life! Yeah! But I am quite worried about the level of difficulty in university... I am afraid of failures and the stigma of the big Zero. So I hope to get some advise on what I should do to cope with failures. Good luck.

I used to get upset about poor scores but then I started to prioritize what I do and don't care about.
I don't care if I get a score on the 1 of 52 or so math tests we take which is poor.
I don't care if I get a poor score in a language I don't speak.
etc.
I think if you view it in a different manor, it really helps. I know people tell people this all the time, but people can't be good at everything. Obviously, at college it'll be subjects you specialize in, but if you were to prioritize which tests mean more to you than others, you'd find it easier.
Or that's how it's worked for me.
Sorry if it's patronizing to get this from a 13 year old(sorry if that's offensive too, it's just sometimes I think people[not on here] get mad at a 13 year old answering questions) to answer.
EMZ=]

I'm failing exams in Physics and Chemistry... I just can't get the things into my head. It used to be very easy for me before high school, but now my performance has definitely plummeted. I don't know how to deal with failure... I will hope to do well on the end exams.

Science turns a lot harder in high school - I used to be good at science, no problem, and when I got to high school I discovered I sucked at it and had to work really hard to get 70% marks (which for me is really low).
Maybe you're not studying the material right. How long are you studying for, and what do you do when you study?

when you fail college you have still have to pay the thousands of dollars for tuition...

So what can we do? I am planning for college, man!

life is complicated. life is full of traps that can screw you.

so let's start from here. How much will you pay for tuition per semester in college? Will you live at home?

I paid $15,000 USD per year for a four year degree. Do the math. I am a debt slave for life.

I failed last 3 years in college. Tuition $20-100 per year.

was it $20,000 or just $20 a year?

Just $20.

lol my classmates are taking out student loans for $30,000 per year. you lucky bastard. we cannot even buy a decent lunch for under $20 here in the states

Where do you study for $20 a year?

That's why I can comfort myself that my failures are not exactly catastrophic.


Croatia.

Well, i feel somewhat concerned here... Had to retake the first grade of secondary (i don't know how to translate all this o.O not the same system in quebec as the rest of North America ... at least for that age) and i passed afterward, i was going to have to retake the next grade after that, but my parents switched me to public school, where it went much better....So i arrived in high school, sciences... i was more or less ok with chemistry, i had to redo it once.... But where i really had problems were Maths, i had two of the damn thing in my first session o.O . It is kinda odd that they'd make it so hard for people who wanna study biology and want to become entomologists =( (studying bugs.....shouldn't take a freaking math degree o.O ). So yeah =.= i had to switch program completly and turned out in social sciences, international stuff... Where again, it turned out better than the last time... Currently having trouble finishing my high school because of ONE class (called demarch of integration in human sciences , for a loose translation), and it's required for getting my diploma =( Luckily i've been able to start university somewhat (the high school class is taken from long distance school) to make a smoother transition...

So as you can see, i had my lot of failures, and being 22 with a younger NT brother and sister, my parents are kinda pissed at me for being so late compared to them.. my younger sister who starts university sometime (she has her high school diploma, just doesn't know what she wants to do) is 4 years younger than me.... Meh, i guess i've learned not to care so much =.= Everyone has their failures and the way things are right now, i think we can be forgiven if it means pushing forward so we can finally get a job and get the economy rolling ~­.~

Now I am relieved I am not alone... Just as I thought repeating my junior year in high school is painful, I now know more painful cases from other Aspies. Phew.(I am now a high school senior)

Never mind, as long as we are more prepared than before for our futures, any 'ordeal' will soon pass.