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On the other hand I also feel guilty that tattle tale tom has been doing all the heavy lifting, literally, just because I am so pathetic that I can't lift fifty pounds

Maybe tattle tale tom deserves a second chance

He was doing his "best "

Nobody is perfect

There is nothing great about me either

Coworkers have to get along well enough to do something together

There is something wrong with everything

Tattle tale tom has some positive qualities that I don't have

Tattle tale tom looks, sounds and acts like a normal precious lil "person". I'm the one that looks and acts unusual

Tattle tale tom has been working there for longer than me

Roy started December 2021. I have asked Roy to lift rocks for me plenty of times and he always did. No complaints and he didn't once bother me

On the other hand, 2020, the first time I asked tattle tale tom for loading assistance, he was barking at me

September 2024, tattle tale tom said that if Joe quits , tattle tale tom will "reconsider".

It is now April 2025 and both idiots still work there

Tattle tale tom said he is going on vacation April 20

I still think tattle tale tom owes me an apology for the times he had the nerve to bark at me. Even though it was a couple of years ago.

"Actions speak louder than words"

Closure

around october 2022, (former) head cashier evan said that tattletale tom said that he did all the pallets and i did none of the pallets. i told evan that i have a drs note that i am not allowed to lift over fifty pounds. evan said that he would discuss with Human Resources if the pallets weigh above or below fifty pounds. the next day, evan said that human resources said that the building (home depot) does not contain a scale so it does not know if the pallets weigh more or less than fifty pounds. (not all pallets weigh the same amount.) i asked evan what i was supposed to tell tattletale tom. evan said tell tattletale tom you have a doctors note you are not allowed to lift over fifty pounds. i asked if evan could write me a note and evan said that is a good idea but it is not gonna happen. a couple days later, tattletale tom had the nerve to bark @ me about a pallet and i told him what evan told me to tell him. tattletale tom had the nerve to tell me that the pallet only weighed thirty, not fifty, pounds. so tattletale tom wasn't going to believe what evan told me, and i didn't have a note. (rolls eyes). and after that, i asked (then) head cashier stephanie what i was supposed to do about pallets and she said, ask someone else to put the pallet on the cart. i started asking other servants to please put the pallets on the lumber cart, while i pushed the lumber carts to Receiving. some of the servants had the nerve to bark @ me "are you helping me or am i helping you?". (marquice). it sounded like he was trying to say that he was helping me and i was not helping him and it was not his job to do my job. (rolls eyes). the training videos say that all servants are required to help with loading merchandise, but pallets are not merchandise. furthermore, that rule has not been enforced. that went on for a while. then Greg told me, pallet jack. for a while, pallet jack. then, figured out a method of knocking the pallet onto the cart, without hands. (it's not "lifting" if hands do not touch pallets.) it's been awkward, clumsy, and takes a lot of time and energy. but i somehow managed to satisfy the doctor, home depot, and tattletale tom (all parties involved, except my worthless corpse.) (rolls eyes)

it reminds me of how, at a job interview at a college bookstore. minimum wage, temporary job, part time. one of the questions was "in what way did you demonstrate innovation in a previous job?". there's nothing bad or wrong about the question, but some jobs do not allow that much room for innovation, especially minimum wage jobs. especially since Angela W has been FES (rolls eyes), the micromanagement has been skyrocketing out of control. required walkie talkies. when the head cashier or supervisor says, take shopping carts to the foyer, that's what you do. when they say, sweep the front sidewalk, that's what you do. granted, there might be some awesome innovative methods of accomplishing the same goals with less effort, that nobody in the building has yet come up with. (fine). however, no matter how innovative your method, the front end supervisor or head cashiers still reserve the "right" to veto it. it made me wonder, why not just ask "what is the patent number of your latest greatest scientific invention?".

there have been four females during my four and a half year service @ home depot: nichelle, jayla, kimmathy, alana.

none of them looked like they could lift 80 pounds of concrete. (ASM Javier had the nerve to tell me that if a customer wanted me to load eighty pounds of concrete, and I failed to do so, home depot was supposed to write me up.) things are not always the way they appear, but i had only seen nichelle load three different times. (for all i know, maybe the customers didn't ask her, as often, to load rocks, b/c she's a woman.)

tattletale tom used to be "in" with nichelle. nichelle told cortez that she had arthritis. nichelle was about the same height and weight as me. there was no great reason why she should've gotten away with doing next to nothing, while i did all this work. (rolls eyes)

tattletale tom had the nerve to micromanage me between 8/2022 and 9/2023. every single time, i was "on task", and he acted like i did something against SOP and he was gonna "snitch" on me. he acted like he was morally superior to me, but he wasn't, and he did not outrank me @ home depot, either.

just b/c tattletale tom is (1) older (2) stronger (3) working there longer (4) having sex with the boss, doesn't mean that he has a moral "right" to micromanage me like that.

i have no idea why he started to micromanage me like that. nor do i have the faintest clue why (it appears that) he has stopped. however, he never told me "why" he did that. besides, there is nobody and nothing that prevents him from doing what he had the nerve to do to me (or worse). home depot hires convicted felons. "ban the box". i do not have a legal "right" or moral "right" to know which of the servants are convicted felons or what they got (correctly or wrongly) of. however, due to "Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act" (HIPAA), neither tattletale tom, nor any other servant, has a legal or moral "right", to know that i have a doctors note that i am not allowed to lift over fifty pounds. one time, i asked nichelle to come help me load, and she went over there with me and just watched, while i loaded. i didn't ask her why she wasn't "helping" me, nor did i say anything else to her. after that, i didn't ask nichelle for any other loading assistance, or any assistance with anything else. she never told *me* "why" she wasn't assisting, and i didn't ask, b/c i didn't want her to lie to me....

one time (then head cashier) stephanie told nichelle and me to get the pallets, and i pushed the cart and loaded the pallets. nichelle didn't do anything except walk next to me and she didn't tell me why she wasn't "helping" me but i didn't ask either.

home depot REALLY needs to do a "lifting test". on the job application, there's a box to check "yes i can lift fifty pounds". according to ASM javier, everyone working in the home depot store needs to be able to lift fifty pounds except: cashier, supervisor and above, pro cashier, tool rental, kitchen, appliances, back office.

some people do not know if they can lift fifty pounds. barbells are easier to lift than concrete. and lift how many? usually customers purchase more than one. and sometimes, servants have to lift the concrete higher than hip height or in awkward positions.

home depot really should, during the job interview, tell applicants to lift the l00# litterbox from the floor to the table and if the applicant doesn't try or doesn't succeed, the applicant doesn't get the job.

it's the whole system. doesn't make sense.

Tattle tale tom left work at 12:30 instead of 2:30 as usual

After tattle tale toms meltdown May 2022, he was absent from work the next 12 days I worked there.

October 2022 til February 2024, lazy boy Steve moved from hardware and plumbing to Lot.

One time a customer asked me to get two people to load merchandise. Tattle tale tom and lazy boy Steve were in the corrals on the phone so I told them. Tattle tale tom said he would go. I said the customer wants two people. "What about you?" Tattle tale tom had the nerve to growl at me. "Too heavy"

After May 2022, I have only asked tattle tale tom for loading assistance one time and that was it

Other times I have been calling the head cashier

But I still feel guilty that tattle tale tom has to do more loading (heavy lifting) because of my work accommodations

My work accommodations don't affect my salary or his salary, but because of my work accommodations, I have less work to do and he has more work to do

On the other hand, Roy has been lifting rocks for me every time I asked and he never overreacted

It's inherent to the system.

Home depot should require a lifting test before hiring

Which occasionally involves taking the employee's side.

HR's job is to protect the company from liability, which in this case means ensuring Tattletale Tom and OP's supervisor don't run afoul of the ADA and state disability law.

Autistic coder

Tattle tale tom, thus far, that I know of, has not done anything illegal

However, I am not a lawyer, but I think that nothing tattle tale could physically do would have in violation of the ADA and state disability law. There is no law against being unreasonable, micromanaging, self righteous, "holier than thou" or anything like that.

Tattle tale tom has had a lot of long conversations with other servants:

John, nichelle, elio, Aaron,

Constantly outnumbered outsmarted overpowered

(Rolls eyes)

I don't get the impression that Tattle tale tom told anyone about how he was micromanaging me around the parking lot. Nobody seemed suspicious around me or anything like that. And I did not tell anyone about him either, besides the counseling clinic and a former "friend"

Tattle tale tom is a big spender

He drives a car and has a gym membership and said he's going to England this week

I don't understand how he can pay for it

tattletale tom never apologized for the times that he had the nerve to bark @ me. even though he hasn't done it since 2022, that is no guarantee that it won't happen again. tattletale tom never told me "why" he barked @ me.

and there is no ASM that i feel comfortable tattling to about tattletale tom. it seems like tattletale tom is having sex with the boss. ("kiss up, kick down"). (rolls eyes)

b/c nobody is perfect, and sooner or later, tattletale tom will (correctly or wrongly) think that i did something wrong. there is nothing to prevent him from overreacting in his past methods (or worse).

some of the ASMs, such as ASM DSmith, are like "disasters waiting to keep happening". she/they make(s) me wanna puke!

tattletale tom hasn't had the nerve to micromanage me since 9/2023, and that is a long time ago. however, i don't know why he started micromanaging me or why he (has appeared to) stopped micromanaging me.

tattletale tom has said "hi" and "how are you?" a couple of times. one time, he even confided in me that he got summoned to the ASM office. but i don't feel comfortable around ANYONE @ this point. not after mister redelings. esp not @ home depot. (rolls eyes).

tattletale tom could've gotten me made redundant or he might've caused me to quit the job, if he were to have escalated. i feel/felt like i had to address his criticism/complaints on a "case by case" basis. but tattletale tom is/was not my boss, and he shouldn't've been micromanaging me any more than i was micromanaging him. i would've been morally justified @ telling him to stop bothering me, but i didn't do that, b/c i was afraid he was having sex with the boss.

so what, tattletale tom is physically stronger than me and sometimes he acted totally out of control @ the slightest thing.(?) tattletale tom is also physically stronger than the Store Manager, and she doesn't act like she's afraid of him.

Been thinking about tattle tale tom a lot

Maybe he's been doing his "best", just that his "best" is not that great

So what? My "best" is not that great either

Tattle tale tom used to act like he was
My boss
Morally superior to me
Academically smarter than me

I have no idea why he started acting like that or why he stopped

He never told me why and I am curious but I don't want to open up a can of worms and make the situation worse

Been thinking about tattle tale tom a lot lately

Kind of feel guilty that he has to do more work because I have a doctor's note. However he could get his own doctors note or he could ask someone to help him

He's also 55 and I am 42. He wasn't acting like he the bigger person, literally or figuretively. He isn't a good example

He still doesn't know that former head cashier Evan said that ASDS said that the building doesn't contain a scale and I don't have to stack pallets at all

Tattletale tom said he was going on vacation to England this week. He didn't say when he'll be back at work. I do not understand how he could financially afford to go on vacation to other countries. When I got a passport last year, for proof of citizenship for health insurance, i got the Passport Card instead of the Passport Book b/c the former was cheaper than the latter. The former did not allow travel to other countries by plane, just Canada and Mexico by car. Tattletale Tom is full time and I am just part time. Maybe he has a second job, his wife has a much higher earning job, unearned income. But I find it hard to imagine that he has more than zero job skills. Tattletale Tom might earn more $$$ than me, but still in the same pay grade as me. Tattletale Tom said he lived 12 minute drive from work. It's in an expensive area. I do not understand how he pays for it. (rent control, great deals, squatting the building, sleeping on someone's couch, won a vacation in a game show). Tattletale Tom drives an expensive car to work and has a gym membership. I have neither one.

And yet, Sunday, Tuesday and Wednesday, despite all his micromanagement, and the times he had the nerve to growl/bark/snap @ me, I still kind of missed him. He's worked there longer than me. Sometimes there are just one or two lot attendants on duty. Sometimes it's just him and me on duty. Actually, I kind of feel guilty that, b/c I have a doctors note that i am not allowed to lift over fifty pounds, he has to literally do "all the heavy lifting". On the other hand, I STILL think that he should've gotten made redundant May 2022, b/c of the "Drywall Incident". I do not know.... nobody is perfect. There is nothing great about me. He was doing his "best" and he was "authentic" and brought his "whole self to work". (rolls eyes). It's kind of socially awkward to have to avoid eye contact when he's the Greeter and I am pushing carts.

He never apologized for micromanaging me for so long or told me why he did it or why he stopped. And there is nothing to prevent him from doing that, or anything worse, again. We work in the middle of a homeless encampment, not in an office. If I were to have done that even one time, there is NO WAY he would've just "accepted it" the way that I did. Tattletale Tom (55m, 5'10, 180#, white). Me (42ftm, 5'3, 112#, chinese).

there is nothing he could do to make up for the way he had the nerve to micromanage me like that. he could've gotten me made redundant or made me want to quit.

it would've been a nightmare, if i were working @ mcdonalds, and, 40 hours a week, tattletale tom was six feet away from me, micromanaging me; and lazy boy steve was six feet away and on the phone.

i do not understand how and why tattletale tom acted like Nichelle and Lazy Boy Steve did more work than me. was he so subconsciously biased he didn't SEE lazy boy steve on the picnic table for half his shifts?

"logic could be used to justify anything".

intimidated

Tattle tale tom did not say when he was coming back but I think he is coming back tomorrow

Again, I don't understand how he could afford a vacation to England for a week while earning minimum wage. I've been really worried about getting made redundant.

Been looking at tattle tale toms photo on the wall every time I go through the hallway

Maybe tattle tale tom would make a good frenemy

But after all that micromanaging and barking, I don't think I am wise enough to give him a second chance

Tattle tale tom came to work today

He did not bother me. Nothing positive or negative. Which in itself is an extremely good thing

He looked exhausted in the locker room but he was sitting down not lying down

I love lying down

tattletale tom has underlying issues.

lately he's been much nicer to me (than he used to be), and he hasn't been micromanaging me. however, nobody is perfect, and sooner or later, he will (correctly or wrong) tell me that i did something wrong, and he will totally overreact.
i won't know how to answer.

in order to have a two way relationship, i think i have to be as comfortable scrutinizing/micromanaging/cross examining the other party, as vice versa. (that was the DEAL BREAKER for amy lee scheel.)

on the other hand, maybe that's never gonna happen and maybe it's my fault.

i do not know.

i still feel like, he should've gotten made redundant @ the Drywall Incident (May 2022). he owed me an apology back then and he never apologized. (compound interest). the owed apology does not "expire" per se. he never told me why he had the nerve to micromanage me or bark @ me like that. nor did he tell me why he didn't treat lazy boy steve or nichelle like that. and there's nothing that prevents him from doing that, or worse, again. the ASMs are no good. they don't know how to do anything except talk a good game. (smooth talking).

(rolls eyes)

lately tattletale tom (and maybe former Paint Associate Robert) have been the only ones that act like they might wanna be my "friend".

constant paranoia