Random Work And Finding A Job

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I have to get up early, which I hate, for my new job which I also hate so uh. Oh dear.

Hating jobs seems like the reason autists should commit to career goals instead of just jobs. Better control of outcomes.

Working in sales; I was always surprised at how gullible some salespeople really are

I think it is what makes them good at their jobs sometimes because they're just open to things and they believe in what they're doing

But I reckon that if a salesman coldcalled another salesman they could literally sell each other their products

I've been on my new job for 3 weeks. Seems ok so far, because there's a familiarity and predictability to things, as well as working independently a lot. I think I also like that I'm not constantly told what to do or about deadlines, but more they assume I read the information on the computer or emails and did it on my own.
The only problem is this is my first time doing a full time job, which is hard for me. The days are kind of flexible though, so if I want a change in schedule I can ask it ahead of time and usually I know what I'm doing at least a month in advance.
I think having a job is good, because I was spending too long unemployed and I just naturally want to remove all human contact from my life. And all part time jobs I tried before had been really bad experiences, where I was constantly overwhelmed and having bad anxiety until I stopped going without notice. I hope to eventually use this experience and money to focus on making art, that's what keeps me interested in having a job at all. I only think about how to keep making my work.

I'm starting a new job tomorrow and I'm nervous. My stomach's been in knots all day. Even though I've done this four times before it never seems to get easy. Life dosen't wait until you are ready. You have to sometimes go not ready. Sink or swim as the expression goes. With the fear I also have an area of peace that God will lead me through it.

Good luck with the new jobs!

I think it is important to watch how much work your fellow employees do and try to do about the same.

I think the biggest mistake is to do too much work instead of too little. The boss may like that but not your fellow employees.

If you need help, ask. But don't associate it with autism, as that doesn't help anyone.
Your autism is different from another person's autism. Someone could spend an hour studying autism and not know how to help you unless you are specific in what you need!

The secret to small talk at work is that is more about listening than talking.
Spend the time to listen to your co-workers. You really don't have to say much, but it is important that you listen to them.
Then you could spend a few minutes over the weekend to do a little research if someone is a sports fan and there is a big game on over the weekend. Look up the score to see who won. Or, if you have the skills, you can often tell just by body language if they won or lost. That may help avoid saying something inapprpropriate.

Avoid being argumentative. If you disagree it is often better to keep your mouth shut.
On the other hand, if you agree, then go right ahead and say something.
If you are on the spectrum it is likely that you lack the social skills to keep things from spiraling out of control.
Be very careful and err on the side of caution.

I think the Universe heard me complain about my job too much so it decided to fire me. Oh well. That's fair, life.

I was put on a new medication a couple years ago. My neurological symptoms are much better. I suggested to my neurologist that maybe I could work again. He shook his head and was like, "no..." He said maybe I could think about light volunteering. I suppose he is right.

I would love to jump back in there and see what is going on. I would especially love to see the hiring and screening processes now from the other side. Meaning I would love to see their questions and software. I would also love to have access to the surveillance systems of a lot of these big companies and see how employee engagement and productivity could be improved.

I would also love to do a new resume and run it through all these modern job seeking things and then have the poor victim companies have to interview me with me being myself just how I am, all excited and too honest and too interested in things. They wouldn't know what to do. I'd find myself on a "do not hire" list, most likely.

It's probably a good thing I'm still at home.

I like the social aspect of work. Today I felt happy just being around my colleagues who I call my friends. They accept me and I fit in very well. It's gotten so much better without the bully being there any more, and the strict supervisor seems to have disappeared at the moment. So I feel I can relax and chat to my friends without feeling paranoid that I'm going to be snitched on by the bully. Nobody can stop me from socialising, it's the only thing that encourages me to not give up. It must feel so lonely when you go to work in a place where nobody talks to you and you don't fit in.

I remember back in 2009 when I was unemployed, I was placed on a work placement scheme at a local convenience store, but I didn't like it much. The work was okay, but I just didn't fit in with the other workers there. They weren't nasty or anything but I could sense cliques and the possibility of being excluded or rejected if you don't quite fit in to their standards. They were all youngsters (even though I was as well) but all seemed confident and had inside jokes among each other that I didn't get. I just felt shy and lonely there, and it affected my motivation to turn up and work. So I left in the end.

Where I work now has more diversity, which I think is better than having a whole team of one peer group. Where I work there are people of different ethnicities, skin colour, ages, sexualities, and disabilities. I much prefer diversity. At the convenience store it was all white Brits aged between 18 and 23, most of the girls were pregnant and their male partners worked there too, and they seemed the sort to just want to get their friends working there too. There didn't seem to be anyone of colour or gay or lesbian or neurodiverse.

I had a 1 month probation talk and things seem ok. Sometimes the day gets intense and especially around some people I need to be very careful not to get carried away and get in some hyperactive mindset and then crash out. I feel so drained and depressed afterwards. With some other people it's much more manageable.
I have some doubts about how long I can keep it going, but when I concentrate on other things I feel better. I try to save as much energy as possible for drawing. I go to some art galleries and read books to replenish energy.
I think getting a little experience and savings in this role is good, but it will be impossible for me to keep doing this long-term.. I miss working in a bookshop.

I wouldn't mind licking envelopes all day if I was in a busy office where lots of gossip goes on and you aren't involved nor the cause of it but you just get to hear it all day. Or a place that deals with frustrated customers but you don't ever have to deal with any customers, you're just in a corner licking envelopes and hearing all the drama but not having the stress of having to deal with it.