It's not what I would naturally identify as a communication issue.
That's what they call it.
The problem is you are independent and you operate as though you don't need them.
You make them feel unimportant.
This messes with their sense of self worth, therefore they will attack yours.
Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" - it helped me understand.
They want to feel important. You are not communicating their importance back to them. That is the communication issue.
You think that doing your job competently or even exceptionally is what is wanted. I admit I instinctively slide into the same view. You are, however, messing with their status perceptions, and they need this to function correctly.
There are semantics between function and importance. Aspies are normally function focussed. Many people are importance focussed so they can function.
I don't know how to fix a function / importance feud. If you make one of them feel unimportant, they will try to prevent you from functioning. You push towards functioning by eliminating their interference, thus making them feel unimportant. It amplifies and gets out of hand. Oroborus of flaming destruction. All hell.
Anyone know how to stop it once it starts?
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30 Jun 2009, 10:57 pm
