Socializing at work

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I did tell her that the reason I never said good morning is that she had headphones on. And I did wonder why she doesn't say hi first when I walk in? She's elder, shouldn't she lead by example?

When we work on projects, she's nice and explains things to me, since I'm new to this position. She's patient when I have questions and she asks me questions sometimes to help make the process better. We work fine together.

She mentioned that she was raised that you should say hi when you enter a room and it's rude not to. I told her that I wasn't raised that way and told her a little about Japanese culture. She seemed to accept that so it's okay but why did she make the DEMAND in the first place instead of leading by example? It's hard to speak to someone who has headphones on...

In the end people are just selfish. I think she does think she's a queen or something. She's very intrusive with people and asks too many questions about personal life. She even asks me what I do on break. It's so irritating. She's just one of those people that thinks they have a right to know everything about everyone. She doesn't mean it in a bad way, I can tell, but it's rude. Our cultural backgrounds are completely the opposite. We need more diversity training at work or something. Accounting is stressful enough without having to deal with nosy coworkers.

You could've said to her "I've been saying hi to you every morning but you've never heard me."

What does she expect you to do? She doesn't even look at you when you come in, right? Does she want you to tap her on the shoulder or wave your hand in front of her face to get her attention to say hi? Maybe you can pull her headphones off one ear and say hi with a big smile.

After thinking about this all weekend, I finally figured this out. Stupid socializing...

I think she's angry at me for not complaining about work. We have been working overtime the last two weeks and our boss had been harsh on us. She had come over to my desk to complain about the boss and I tried to tell her that she works hard and that our boss knows that but just has a bad temper. I think my coworker wanted me to join her in complaining and was angry at what I'd said. It's not like I never complain. I told her I was tired many times, but I try to keep a smile on my face always. What am I supposed to do? Make myself miserable? How could I stand to be at work for 10 hours a day if I chose that mindset?

My stoic attitude has been the reason why people both like AND hate me. I'm not changing my ways for anyone. I choose to lead by example and there are some people who will always choose to be victims. I will say good morning to her, but if she has her headphones on, that's not my fault. She should be willing to meet me halfway for something SHE requested.

You have broken one of societies golden rules, remaining neutral and not taking their side. Good for you! I don’t completely understand it but I have learned that people dislike it when you don’t engage with them in their complaining. I have also found if you ignore them long enough people give up on you and complain elsewhere or at least that’s what I have experienced.

I was just proud of myself for figuring it out. LOL
Society.

At least she told you straight up what she wanted. Most NTs I've worked with would just go complain behind your back and probably try to get you fired.

EDIT: Nope, guess she didn't after all. Figures.

I say you dont wish her Good Morning...continue the way you were doing earlier.

She will get the point that you are not some people pleaser or someone who will dance to her tunes.

You will wish as and when you feel like wishing.