thinking you would be successful when younger?

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Well, I'm 53 and I support myself, but there is so much more that I want to do. Maybe I'm delusional, but I'm still trying to hit my targets. It makes me sad to see people who sort of give up or think it's not worth trying. I feel like I have not one single person on my side in life and some would laugh to see me fail, but you know what at least I'm on my side!

Pssh, it's never too late to have goals. Otherwise, what's the point of living?

I went back to uni in my late 20's, night classes. Most of my classmates were my parents age... in fact, one of the women in my computer science classes was the mother of a guy I went to high school with. They always had the goal of finishing college, or becoming a manager, or leaving their housekeeping job for a something in medicine or education, etc.
I am also friends with a lot of folks my parents age, we meet on educational forums, where everyone is constantly trying to improve their skills... they like the challenge and celebrate a goal of getting to work on an exciting project.

I love the positivity and focus of people with clear goals.

After I finally finished uni, I realized my mindset overall was improved when I had goals.

I used to think that I would be successful, and now I am successful, so my thinking was right! Sure, there are areas in my life where I haven't been very successful that could use some improvement, but in general I think I've made out pretty well.

I'm on your side, you won me over with the music! You do make a good point though - on this site I often see defeatist attitudes, but it's my belief that you're only defeated when you stop trying. I went through quite a rough period a few years back, and it would have been simple for me to just abandon the pursuit of what I wanted. Instead, I persevered and made out all the better for it.

I can sympathize with wozeree. Since I lived in my head when I was younger, I had all these ideas about what my life would be like by the time I was in my 30s. Well, none of it was to be. Reality was hard for me. I did reach the goal of becoming a priest - despite (not knowing then) that my Aspieness made me odd to the formators in seminary. Even today, despite my educational background, I've never been asked to be on special committees or teach or do anything like that. I keep getting passed over. I do have a fear that I'll be sent to some parish out in the middle of nowhere and no one will care. I still feel very much not in control of my own destiny.

I did, however, begin to write music, and that's been very rewarding. I think that's because it's something I have control over. Still, it will be hard to gain a reputation to have my works performed. As an Aspie maybe I'll always feel lost in the world.

I think I would like to write a book of some kind, too, but I'm not sure about what. I couldn't write a novel because I don't understand the complexities of people. Maybe a book of children's stories like Sandberg's Rootabaga Stories? I don't know.

One thing I have learned is that it's important to start making the effort to birth what's in my head into the world and not to procrastinate.

I am on your side

A belated thank you.