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Like I said, GWA, you should really study. The more tolerant people are usually the more educated people.

You could probably work at a tee-shirt place in the mall, or at a clothes shop. They're usually more tolerant of piercings. Just watch the people who work at these places. Maybe Victoria's Secret (depending on the manager) might not mind it if you have piercings.

Please don't be upset with us. We're just trying to tell you what's real, and what's fake.

Agreed. It's the employer who decides what the corporate image will be. It is also the employer's right to decide who gets hired. If the candidate's jewelry is excessive, their tattoos visible, or their clothing inappropriate, the employer is fully within it's rights to reject the candidate. People looking for work should keep this in mind before getting visible tattoos or piercings, or wearing "club clothes" to an interview.

To the OP, lets look at the choices, that might help calm things.

1. See if there are any places of employment where you live, that already allow your piercings in their dress code. There are some places to work where the employers not only don't mind but are cool with piercings.

The only downside with this approach is that it narrows your options for work.

2. Wait until the new piercings heal enough for it to be safe to go without them for a few hours, then find a job where the boss is okay with earrings in the traditional place such as the lobe. Most bosses are fine with a woman wearing the regular old lobe-placed earrings.

Then wear some really nice earrings in the lobes; they will still be pretty and boost your confidence. Keep your hair covering the rest of the ear to cover the pierces. When you go home every day you can put your extra earrings back in, and sleep with them in to keep the pierce-hole from closing.

I'd rather at this point be supported by my parents. I know you guys think it's no big deal but I look like I'm 12 if I don't have something a little out there about my appearance. I was stabbing my ears with safety pins trying to make holes when I had them out. At this point I'd prefer the moderators just delete this conversation altogether bc I'm sick of being ambushed on a site that's supposed to help people with ASD. you guys can make fun all you want but I get way more support on tumblr than I do here. I would delete this account if I could. As someone on the spectrum, I am embarrased for some of you and the way you have such little tolerance. Most of you are highly intelligent intellectuals and seem to have no sympathy for more low functioning Aspies. I'm done.

Same thing happened to me when I got my first ear piercing while in college (now have three, but I don't wear anything in them anymore ... hey, I'm 53). I had worked at various locations of a theatre chain for four years. I could (and did) do every job they offered, but, the day I arrived with a stud (in solidarity protest with another employee being fired on the spot for the same thing the day before), I was told I would be fired, too. The general manager was a friend of mine and I argued the "two-week healing minimum." He allowed me to "cover my stud with a Band-Aid" during those first two weeks. Okay, I bought a box of the largest Band-Aids I could find and, instead of applying it discreetly, I looped it around as obviously as I could while hiding the stud. Guests asked me all day if I had injured myself, and I told them the corporate rule. They were surprised and offended at such a silly rule. As a result, I wasn't fired.

So, having lived through that experience, I would say to the OP to heal as quickly as possible and return to the theatre to re-apply. I was able to heal quickly and, in a couple weeks, could take the stud out for a few hours at a time. During breaks, I replaced the stud and used the hydrogen peroxide for 10 minutes. It worked.

Then again, why not apply to work for Hot Topic? They sell piercings, don't mind their employees wearing the merchandise and are usually in every shopping mall alongside theatres.

Girlwithaspergers, I'm sorry you want to leave, although I can understand why you feel there are some here who give people a hard time along with the advice.

On the one hand, people here are only trying to help by giving you advice that might shed light on some things and how to work with those aspects of life.

On the other hand, sometimes a person can get heavy-handed with the manner of the delivery of that advice. They mean well and they're "telling it like it is," but it feels cold and harsh when there are nicer ways to say it and more positive options to explore.

But I DO understand when you feel like that's giving you a hard time about something. It can feel like that.

I know it's a big deal that something a person can wear can have the power to make a big difference in how they feel about themselves and their confidence levels. I don't think any human being can honestly say that not one of their choices in outward presentation doesn't have at least some impact on feeling better able to face the world out there, or in feeling more confident, or older/younger/more attractive. Your piercings help you feel that way, and therefore they are important to you.

I'm just saying there may be work-arounds with things like this. Even if it means waiting to heal, then leaving the extra ones at home and just wearing lobe-earrings for work, that can still look very sophisticated and amazing, and help avoid people thinking you're younger than you are.

And there are also places of employment that would permit your piercings. There's a way to find an answer to all this.

Poor widdle aspie girl got her feelings hurt, eh? GROW THE F!CK UP!! !! People like Fnord, KraftieKortie, and myself, who've been around the block a few times, and learned the hard way about the workplace, are telling you like it is.
I can guarantee you will NEVER amount to anything unless you conform to the rules of the workplace. I don't give a tinker's damn where you want to work, you conform, or ELSE!! !! ! You sound like my brother's step-daughter, who is a spoiled brat and supposed princess who was pampered all her life. GET THIS THROUGH YOUR THICK HEAD: THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND YOU!! !! !! !!

Rant over. If you don't like hearing the truth, even when it hurts, then please, LEAVE AND DON'T COME BACK!

Moderator: please close this thread. It has become offensive and unsupportive.

I agree with closing the thread.

And to Meistersinger:

I too have told the OP the same things you did. Jesus christ read some other replies other than the person you've crawled up the back passage of. None of us are saying anything different. I just didn't scream abuse at her like you have.

I've been around the block too and know the realities of the workplace, and I too told her the way things are, but there's NO NEED TO GET ANGRY AT THIS YOUNG WOMAN.

She's trying to figure life out, everyone was there at one point or another.

And THERE ARE places that employ people with a couple of freaking jewels in their ears.

1. I suffer from terminal foot in mouth disease.

2. I do not like whiners. She was doing nothing but whine.

3. I'm from PA Dutch Country. Hack a PA Dutchman off, and you'll get this kind of response.

4. I'm on Benadryl right now, no thanks to the medication-induced hives I have right now after taking Flomax, cipro, and Farxiga, as well as trying to pass kidney stones. My doctors took me off these 3 Mede, but I'm still scratching and not sleeping well.

I've gave her the exact same lecture and hissy fit I got when I copped an attitude with my parents, except she got off easy. My parents were a LOT more vicious when they were alive. Be glad it wasn't any of my supposedly NT brothers, since the abuse would have been worse.

That's all I'm going to say on the subject. Just close the damn thread already.

i think that's sensible.