Told off for not looking happy and not talking enough

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I think this is very typical. NT's are always surprised by how you can work without the mindless prattle which seems to be necessary to make their brains function. Try to rise above it. Personally, I try and hint that as I work about 50% harder than my colleagues, that might be something to concentrate on, rather than a perceived lack of sociability. You have to come to accept that it is possible to get on at work without working very hard, but just by being sociable. Not fair, I know, but true. You also have to learn to accept the fact that, by their own standards, NT workers are not lazy. It's not that they won't keep up with your pace of work, it's actually that they can't. They need to talk. I'd say live and let live, but as they don't, I have tried pointing out how lazy some of my colleagues actually are. You have to be sure that you won't get punished for pointing that, though. If you're sure you won't get sacked, try that. It works for me.

That happened to me at my last job which I had before I got my diagnose. I was told that I didn't talk which I didn't see the problem in as I was doing my job correctly and got everything right? It was always the same employee who complained whenever we had shifts together and it was always for the same reason but last time it happened she took me aside and was upset over it. After that shift I quit. It already was a job that was poorly suited for me but i'd been doing my best, focusing on my tasks and shutting all else out until I got home again and I rarely made any mistakes but this employee reminded me of my old bullies who'd always use me being quiet as an excuse to bully me because that was "not normal", "boring" and "weird". People in my life nowadays don't treat me like i'm any less than normal so I just felt that I was not going to take being treated that way again and it made me very sad and frustrated. I really don't understand many NT's obsession with never shutting the hell up. I think talking can be restricted to when there's actually something to speak about. Are you open with your diagnose? I've found that can help and make you more understood.

Have a nice vacation. I hope things get better at your work.