My director is on to me, and doesn't know it, or does he?

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It is a thing to think off... but I told my boss that there are almost never appraisal talks.

I often show cheerful behaviour, because I like the social setting pretty much. I am very social and extravert for someone on the autism spectrum. She and my highest boss think that I like my job. That I am cheerful is more a part of my personality, and autism doesn't cause many problems to me.

She told me that I get in panic when I get three tasks at the same time. She thinks that I can not decide in what order I must do them. She is wrong, and I told her that. I sort the tasks on the deadline dates. The task with the shortest deadline goes on top. Under that task, there will be tasks with later deadlines and no given deadlines. Tasks without deadlines will done the latest in the order of the date/time they were given to me.

That deadline system I made several years ago, and I use that. I know that previous bosses stuck to certain ideas and don't change them, if I do improve the way I work. Since a few years I apply the kaizen (改善) attitude, which means that I look how I complete the task, even if the person who gave it, or the boss is content. There is always a way to more efficiency or more embellishment. The boss should notice my kaizen attitude, but she doesn't.

Whether I can switch or not, or wether I can remember things that I did before, is hard to notice for a boss, that is related to the way I think, how my intelligence is. I can think very fast, and to a certain degree I can multitask. And I can do more than one task simultaneously. An example: I must take the dirty towels from the kitchen to the washing machines and I have some copying work. I take both of them from the 2nd floor to the ground floor. Then I go to the washing machine and throw the dirty towels in it. Then I go to the copying machine and start copying. The display shows how long it will be busy. I start the timer on my smartphone or smartwatch and do other things. If my smartphone vibrates, I know the timer fires, and my copying machine is ready.

Is the boss aware that I can organize two or three tasks simultaneously because they have the same floor in common?

And some of my behaviour is considered autistic while I think it is not. It is as follows:
- A colleague asks other colleagues to mail issues. He can read them in his office. A person's short term memory is limited. So it is better to communicate by mail;
- A colleague asks me to mail issues. I can read them in his office. My autism limits processing verbal information. I should be able to memorize everything that has been said. I can't. And that is considered as an autistic limitation. I consider this as utter BS.

Another example:
- My boss asks me to keep an eye on the tea supply. I bet a person will think: "Why only the teasupply? Of course I must look at the supply of every thing in the personnel room. Not only tea, but also coffee, soup, sugar, creamer." Logical;
- I think the same. Since I am autistic, that thinking pattern is autistic.

This means:
- If someone goes to the toilet, that is normal. From time to time you have to;
- If I go to the toilet, that is autistic. Why is that? Because I am autistic.
Utter BS. I am not only autistic, I am also human. So I can show common behaviour with NT.

@jimmy m, great suggestion! I know to do that, but I haven't done that. Good reminder.


I would say the same for myself and I'm an ENFP. So it's either the "N" part or the Aspie part that correlates to that particular behavior.


My NT husband thinks my director sees me as a threat and wants me quiet or out. Quiet is not an option for me, so...

Thanks for your two cents!

@hmk66, that's my personality: extraverted (a touch) and cheery. I am glad your autism doesn't cause many problems. My didn't until management changed and the stress went up. I also have a system for managing my tasks; it's fairly casual. I will look into the kaizen attitude. Thank you for the tip!

@hmk66, that's awful that your diagnosis seems to be used against you (in a harmful way). I don't plan to use my diagnosis as an "excuse" so I would expect that others would not use it to limit or exclude me. But then, we cannot control biases that some folks have against what they do not understand. At this time I do not plan to self-disclose at work, but I'm at the onset of this. I take it you needed to self disclose - for accommodations? work program?

Based on my experience, I would say: Do not self-disclose!

My school gets subsidy because of my autism, but it's unclear to me why if there aren't many complaints of the current work. There is no job coach, no appraisal talks, no autism related adjustments, nor have they to be. There aren't complaints about my work either. Then way this salary subsidy? The school has likely money problems.

Because the school needs money they say that my autism is a serious problem because of a learning disorder. My father denies that and thinks (rightfully, based on IQ tests) that I am very intelligent and learned things on a young age, although I was severely autistic, until I was 5. So the school refuses to teach me things.

For the salary subsidy there must be a proof of lower productivity or salary value. Therefore I fully trusted my former boss, and thought he would do the right thing. He completely manipulated the talk with the psychologist. When I talked about the travels that I made alone, he said "Shh!" to me.

I want to be medically tested again, and especially on the cognitive area. I will sue anyone that wants to stop me, manipulate the process, or frustrate me in other way; I won't always be loyal and sweet. My sweetness will soon end. Will it be tiresome? This already happened to me before; and no-one dare frustrate me in this again. In the past I wanted to have a cognition test. A psychologist refused and my school refused. Why? I think, they are afraid of something. There mustn't be a proof of a learning disorder or a proof of its absence. This whole issue stinks like hell, and hit must stop. Otherwise I will sue my employer and start applying for a job at a company that will take me serious.

"Excellence is part of your job description. To really stand out, you'll need to walk on water."
-- A former supervisor of mine, after I asked for a long-overdue raise in pay.

Sorry. Just seen thread. Your boss is just being a boss. They are supposed to save every penny so a pay rise?
I left a head of department position. I always worked hours I was ever paid for. My sales were almost equal consistantly with the store in the city who had two heads of department to cover the work. They were paid much more per hour. I found a ew job. I said "If you put my wages from £3.65 per hour (Was 1998) to £4.12 per hour (Which the ones in the city had... the next store along again was one head of department and he aas on £4.65 an hour!)
They said "We can't do that". I left rhe store. I left the tools I had to buy with my own money as the next employee would have been stuck... (Along with the nails I'd bought to put the tools on the wall etc and other improvements. The store never had the budget to do these, tey they were expanding like mad!)
Anyway. They said no. The manager pleaded with me... He left after me. He saw what was coming. I gave them two to three months notice. I said "I need time to train the new employee up to show them how to run the department. The new employee was hired just a few days before, and I was only given a few hours with him to try to show him everything. He was just 17! I had pleaded with them to let me be there at the job interview so I can check the person knows the mechanical side of the bicycles. I did not habe the chance to even see what he was like mechanically.
He kept saying "I know what I'm doing" in a rather boasting way. (Even when I tried to show him the paperwork and how the individual department was run. And why dis they employ him? £1.70 an hour!
And I don't believe he put in all the extra unpaid hours needed to run the department. The department was not able to cope and there must have been many dissapointed customers who didn't get their bikss. The 17 year old quickly left when he found out whatwork was involved... It was a right mess! Tey lost many customers and stopped selling bikes other then just a small amountnin boxes. What was a very profitable bike department had hit rock bottom to save a few extra pounds.
Well. It was their loss.

Truly penny rich, pound foolish.

I expect my story will be similar. My teammates and outside my team say I am critical to the business, they are appalled I am paid so little, but my mgmt won't correct it. There's saving three pennies here, and giving a penny there... I hear it's fairly typical (unethical) business: you want to be paid more (but you're not a buddy of mine)? Leave. ...Well, ok, then.