Do you think my family has disowned me for being unemployed?

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When I graduated college, I got a lot of this same kind of flak. I got my undergrad in instrumental music education, but after a near disastrous student teaching, I decided that maybe that direction wasn't for me. However, I had become interested in music therapy by about March of my senior year and started thinking about doing that instead. Unfortunately, I made my decision too late and missed all the application deadlines. So I graduated and passed student teaching (mostly by promising never to set foot in another classroom), and then was unemployed for about 6 months. Following that, I got a job in a gas station and worked there for the next 6 months. The worst feedback I got was from my mom. Her favorite seemed to be this comment: "Well, what are you going to do if you go to grad school, finish the work, and then decide not to pursue your field again?"

You're right in the sense that a person shouldn't give up but you're wrong in your assumption that Asperger's doesn't affect acquiring and keeping a job. Not everyone suffers from the same symptoms, and some struggle more than others. Your situation is not that of everyone else.

It saps every ounce of energy out of me just interacting with people, never mind having to keep up with deadlines, claw the way up the corporate hierarchy, etc. It has nothing to do with holding out to find the "ideal" job.