never gona work if i can help it!

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And in my experience, enduring such hardships helps you get better at coping with them.

Some issues I had when I was younger don't phase me hardly today because I confronted them often enough that I learned to not let them control how I reacted.

I am in my 30's and my parents are STILL abusive.. as a matter of fact, they even got worse. No one does anything to punish them. So, we have to stop being victims of our past. I know, easier said than done, but if leaving is at all possible, especially on disability, leave. YES, A RELATIVE OF MINE WAS ABLE TO LIVE ON HER OWN THROUGH DISABILITY. She said it is much better than the hell she was living at 'home'. I know people in their 60's and my grandmother, at age 93! who was still critical of their children. 93. So they won't likely change. MINE ALSO CONTINUED TO JEOPARDIZE MY JOBS. No one understands that.

Absolutely! As you reach age 35-40 you finally realize that this world is not going to change for you. We need to stop focusing on how DIFFERENT we are and accept the society the way it is.. that doesn't mean agree with it or adapt to it, but just see the way things are.

They do not have to care for you, though parenting is a lifelong job in the minds of most people. Michael Jackson's mother and parents took over all his finances and ran over there when he was 50 yrs old.. 50! Oh, and single people don't qualify for welfare. When I applied for assistance, I was told to wait until college medical benefits came, and also, they told me your parents do not have to help you.

Watch out for taking jobs that are abusive with abusive bosses also. This happened to me because my parents are so abusive (boss= parent , according to many psychologists). So, imagine the hell I went through on a stressful abusive job THEN coming home daily to more abuse! you really have to move .

How would you feel if, every time you DID get a job, against many odds and with great overwhelming stress, and your mother said 'it isn't the job, it 's STAYING at a job, for years and years'. That's all the counts to her. She knows nothing of the diffciulty. She would bring up my relatives as examples of people who 'put up with crap' for years at work as something to be adored, adulated, 'better than' me. And I got many many more jobs than them.

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I don't know, still wonder why British people spell 'ass' 'arse'. Maybe it was a way of softening the word. You should have had my mother who scolded in scathing tone 'No , people work to be productive.. there are all types of work'. She also said daily tasks (getting dressed, any motion) is work. I am all for bringing back the farm days where we can work for ourselves. and not be a slave to any company . who's with me?

We can't help our feelings, we CAN control our reactions. Perhaps the anger is from people in U.S. who do qualify for disability, and still don't receive it, due to faulty doctors, non-cooperation, and just plain ignorant people who don't know the full daily effects of ASP. I was turned down for disability and continue to get fired from jobs.. THAT makes a lot of sense. You know what the social security report said? "You worked once at job x, you can go back to that type of work at job x'.Never mind that x didn't want you back and isn't hiring. I have been 'on the street' during the day in all types of weather and I said aloud to myself 'yep, this is still better than putting up with the horrible abusers I had at work'. Then again there have been many cold rainy days where I cursed myself for quitting good jobs that I was able to get. Saying that you don't have a choice over how your mind works shows that you are aware of other choices and that others do have empathy, therefore you are making a choice.

A book 'very special people', I hope everyone reads it. Those people took a disability and worked, becoming quite wealthy. I have had 46 jobs in 24 yrs. I think that beats everybody. NORMAL people have sleep deprivation, long hours and stress. Now try coupling it with constant menopause, mood swings, inability to look at people, intolerance of noise, reactions to noise, on and on.. it makes me wonder how 'average' people ever keep a job! Because they do not contend with the rest! I really would like a good doctor , whomever you went to, to give me my disability. They punish the self employed with huge medical costs for insurance, high interest loans for house and car, and yet some, like Bill Gates (said to be asperger) 'make it'.

I think that way in the past, too, until I come up upon my sister's lovely house, see how everyone else (friends, family)has a home and garden and white little fence and something of their own.. and that the ONLY way to get that in this society is either through inheritance or working. Then you feel like absolute s**t. I feel like crap when I am not working. If I had my way, we all could travel constantly and not have to eat or pay bills and just live outdoors in peace.

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Still, I would rather bag groceries than go on welfare. I got food stamps once, and the process I went through to get a total of $30 in assistance was so demeaning I decided I would never go through that again.[/quote]

Amen!! !! I was talked to so condescendingly by this guy when I just asked for information on food stamps.. he wouldn't tell me! He kept saying "I dont know if you qualify, I am getting to that". AND I HAVE WORKED FOR OVER TEN, LONG HELLISH YEARS!! ! He was playing psychologist instead and wasting my time. I don't know how anyone can stand being accountable to some heartless govt stranger who is all in your personal business every month or few months with 'what are your bills?' 'tell us when you get more or anything changes'. How dare they?! That is not their right. At least an employer does not do that on a job!