Figuring out what to do with my life

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I am new here...so i am just gonna come out and say...im 26 years old...i have a B.A in History..im diagnosed with aspergers. I am having a tough time figuring out what to do with my life....my parents are not exactly the most supportive in the world...my dad only cares about making money and wants me to take any job that will pay me....my mom seems like she could care less about me, as she is mostly concerned with my nephew and niece. I feel like outside my therapist, i don't have anyone to talk to or give me guidance in life...and for someone with my introverted personality and obsession with history and reading..its important for me to have someone make a path for me that I can follow on.

well, what are your interests?


and yeh, my so-called "friend" only cares about money money money... he can't do anything because he enjoys it or feels like it, his only concern is how to make money from something - its a bit like "Ed Edd & Eddy" in a way...

Maybe you should become the next David Starkey that you can satisfy your love of history and make loads of money. I sympathise with your situation as I am nearly 31 and still trying to figure out what to do with my life.

If you have not already, try growing a mustache. Let it decide for you where to go from there. Nothing is more decisive than a mustache.

26, unemployed, and BA in theater here, so I feel your pain.

If your parents are supporting you financially it makes sense that they just want you to get a job and make money. My parents didn't really 'support' my dreams, but they never had a chance to follow their dreams either. Maybe you can find a job that will afford you enough money to do what you want on your off time. Travel, or whatever interests you.

Two options. Either 1. specialize in the material culture of your areas of interest in history, or 2. build a solid hobby which would be your main interest and get some low brain part time job that you can do for a little cash.

1. Write books or sell books dealing with history. Open a second hand book store with a good history section and a small antiques and curios section/display/theme. Get into antique restoration or reproduction. Become a specialist supplier to as many historical interest groups as you can identify. Supply re-enactors, leather workers, experimental archaeologists, etc with books, tools, lectures, etc.

Or you can learn everything you can about your geographical area, it's history, etc and build a tourist destination. A building with displays, stories, reproductions for sale, and host events that become part of official state or national tourist events listings.

2. Become a re-enactor, experimental archaeologist, reproducer of cultural artifacts, whatever rings your bell... and mow lawns or deliver pamphlets in letter boxes to earn enough $ to fund your lifestyle without intruding.

One thing I'm becoming more aware of for myself is that I'm cripplingly reliant on other peoples approval and what 'outside of myself' thinks is right or correct. I'm forever seeking 'the answer' backed up by outside confirmation. It occurs to me that this is the wrong approach and I now need to close my approval borders and look to my own approval. I'm thinking it will pay dividends for me, and you might want to consider it for yourself. By all means use other people for information and mentoring, but not for permission or approval in every little thing.