ignoring AS to get a job

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yeah as the title implies, i dont think its gonna help me in a decent job. from what i hear you have to be good at idle socialising and generally look happy, even if you do have awesome work skills (planning to get a job in biochemistry, but maybe go into the territorial army to pay my uni fee first)

this is why im gonna make myself believe that im actually NT. i've already mastered the idle chit chat thing NTs do, smiling naturaly, eye contact, mixing in jokes where appropriate etc. etc...seems like it'll hurt my chances not having good social skills and just accepting it.

so from now on, i am NT, pleased to meet you.

Nice to meet you, "NT" person.

I have reasonable social skills as well - my biggest problems in the workplace are sensory related. If you don't have much problem with that, then it probably isn't to your advantage to advertise the Asperger's. Best of luck to you.

thanks

and i geuss i didnt really have many problems other than the whole social thing. sensory issues are perfectly fine. sometimes i work with my dad im the summer break when he's at work building or maintaining some part of a house and he can be grinding or cutting his way through something as loud as you can imagine and im usually as calm as a cat who took a spin in the microwave...

hell im a lil bit weird as far as most NTs go but I might have even been misdiagnosed as a kid O_o

You're young and you'll probably have lots of energy to accomplish your goals. Just remember to always allow yourself to de-stress whether it's exercising or a favorite hobby. It's great that you have these wonderful plans for your future, I wish you all the best.

I have never had a paying job (I'll be sixteen in a bit less than a week, and then I'll start looking).

However, I would not suggest trying to eliminate all Aspie traits- what about good memory, ability to stay on tasks for a long time, ability to observe details. Don't ignore those, create a happy blend.

So you think you need to pretend to be an NT to do well?

Hmm. Well, here is the second richest man in the world:

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I LOVE IT! Bill Gates Rocks! Thanks Asp-Z!

Not everybody has the genius smarts or skills to be like bill gates! Some of us have no or limited entrepreneurial skills and therefore are stuck begging for jobs!

I've done this for quite a long time. I think the real trouble is executive functioning, working memory, and fatigue. When I feel myself headed down the drain or dangerously close to the edge its usually less my social skills being particularly that bad and more my brain grinding to a halt. Its been happening again lately .

implying having AS is good in financial terms.

a similar analogy would be "bill gates is rich. bill gates dropped out of uni. therefore, all uni drop-outs are rich"

i just felt a lot happier before a learnt what AS was, i believed i could function normally. once i started looking into it, and found this site i questioned myself and went into a s*** lined depression, i actaully believed i was counter-fit, inferior to everyone. a period where i had to keep trying to convince myself "im not sub-par, im not sub-par."

i'll still have my qualities, AS or not. but im gonna completely ignore the fact that i have all the negative traits of AS, and accept that i've come far enough to consider myself part of the majority. now simply comes the task of proving im better than the majority. someone with both the good AS traits and who works perfectly with others. thats what im aiming to be, so as a little 'confidence placebo' if you will, im ignoring my diagnosis.

Well, don't forget that you could see Asperger's as simply an aspect of your personality. There's a difference between feeling and being autistic, and just having a few certain personality traits. I don't think you should ignore you're Aspergerish personality traits, but there's definitely ways to find around them.

Well, now you mention it...



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I had the opposite. I felt that there was now logical, observable causes for my problems, and I could begin to work with them in an effective way, instead of groping in the dark, clutching at straws.



Good luck. I know what Willard would say, but he sadly no longer frequents this board.

I'd love to know if your spell works, do come back and tell us.

May you be happy whatever the strategy you use.

I think I had one job a few years back and my colleagues seemed to see me as someone who was a bit odd but funny and they seemed to like me for it. They knew I was a bit snappy at times but seemed to accept it too. But I reckon they all wondered about me and what syndrome I may have.

I don't think I will ever tell an employer I am Aspie. They hire me, they have to accept my personality as it comes out.