Jobhunting in my Confidence Window

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I have a window, a limited amount of time, where I have confidence and motivation. It comes naturally and I'm ambitious and self-assured. Then that window closes and I'm timid, awkward and a bit fearful.

I can search for jobs, pursue jobs, go on interviews, and follow-up with those interviews during my confidence window. When that window closes, I'd rather just stay home, putz on the internet, clean my house and keep away from people. The phone has rung and I've let it go to voicemail, saving the call for when that confidence window opens back up.

Once I have a job, my confidence window isn't as relevant because I have a pattern (eg. get up, get dressed, go to work, etc). But I definitely need that window open to get the job.

Do you know what I mean? Anyone else experience a mood shift like this where it just gets in the way of progress? What do you do?

Half of my life is spent controlling my headspace and I understand exactly what you mean. As I have gotten older though I have found that I am able to control this "window" better and open and close it as the situation warrants. Just takes a lot of practice and desensitization.